"The 4 D's Of Spiritual Growth"



"Strive to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To be too wise for worry, too tolerant for hate, and too courageous to be fearful. In short, to be happy."

-- Unknown Source

Reflect on this pathway for meaningful growth:

DISCIPLINE - To create change in our lives, we need to consistently focus on what we want.

DETACHMENT - Practice the art of detached observation. Let go of automatic defenses and patterns.

DISCERNMENT - Seek to discern the lower from the higher. What is self-serving and what is soul-inspired? Discernment carries no judgment. There are no goods and bads. Remain as a detached witness.

DHARMA - This is an East Indian word meaning "living your unique purpose." How do you find meaning and fulfillment in ways that are natural to you? How do you best serve and contribute to the world?

"If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears."

-- Glenn Clark


"All Is Mind"



"I want to know the thoughts of God; the rest are details."

-- Albert Einstein

Everything -- absolutely everything -- that happens in our lives has a spiritual cause. Events on all other levels -- mental, emotional and physical -- are only effects.

When we are struggling with any challenge, whether it be ill health, a lack of money, a lost job, relationships, an accident, whatever -- we need to look for the spiritual learning. We can ask ourselves, "What quality does my soul want me to live more fully?"

"If you start to think the problem is ‘out there,’ stop yourself. That thought is the problem."

-- Stephen Covey

26 Quick Tips...

... for Living an Inspired Life
By Carol James

Ask for what you want.

Be who you say you are.

Care about others.

Dare to live your dreams.

Ease through the day.

Find the best fit.

Give to another.

Hug a friend.

Inspire someone to greatness.

Jump over a boundary.

Kick a bad habit.

Leap across a fear.

Mention something uplifting.

Never say never.

Open your mind and heart.

Pursue your innermost passions.

Quit complaining.

Restore your smile.

Set your sights high.

Trust yourself.

Use all the day.

Value everything.

Wait until it feels right.

Xpress yourself.

Yank weeds from your mental garden.

Zoom into the now.

Would would you manifest in your life if you knew you could not fail?
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Many blessings to you,
Jafree & Margot

"Do not abandon trust when your ego thinks
things should be different than they are." ~Wayne Dyer

Christmas Story: A place in Paradise


     Many years ago, in the northeast of Brazil, there lived a couple who were very poor and whose only possession was a hen. They managed to scrape a precarious living from the eggs laid by that one hen.
     On Christmas Eve, however, the hen died. The husband, who only had a few pennies to his name, which was certainly not enough to buy food for that evening’s meal, went to seek help from the village priest.
     Instead of giving him money, the priest merely remarked:
     ‘God never closes a door without opening a window. Your money will buy you almost nothing, so go to the market and buy the first thing you’re offered. I will bless that purchase and, since Christmas is the time for miracles, something will happen that will change your life for ever.’
     The man wasn’t entirely convinced that this was the best solution, but he went to the market anyway. One of the traders saw him wandering aimlessly about and asked what he was looking for.
     ‘I don’t know. I don’t have much money, but the priest told me that I should buy the first thing I was offered.’
     The trader was very rich, but even so he never let slip an opportunity to make a profit, however small. He took the man’s few coins and in exchange gave him a note scribbled on a piece of paper.
     ‘The priest was quite right. Now I’ve always had a kind heart, and so, on this festive day, I’m selling you my place in Paradise. Here are the deeds!’
     The other man took the piece of paper and moved off, while the trader glowed with pride at having closed yet another excellent deal. That night, while he was preparing for supper in his house full of servants, he told the story to his wife, adding that it was thanks to such quick thinking that he had become as rich as he was.
     ‘That’s shameful!’ said his wife. ‘Fancy behaving like that on the day Jesus was born! Go straight to that man’s house and get the piece of paper back, or you’ll never set foot in this house again!’
     Alarmed by his wife’s anger, the trader decided to do as she said. After much asking around, he managed to find out where the man lived. When he went in, he found the couple sitting at a table that was completely bare apart from the piece of paper.
     ‘I’ve come because what I did was wrong,’ the trader said. ‘Here’s your money. Now give me back what I sold you.’
     ‘You did nothing wrong,’ replied the man. ‘I followed the priest’s advice and I know that what I bought from you is blessed.’
     ‘But it’s just a piece of paper. Besides, no one can sell someone else their place in Paradise. If you like, I’ll give you double what you paid for it.’
     However, because he believed in miracles, the poor man refused to sell. The trader gradually increased his offer, until he reached the sum of ten gold coins.
     ‘That’s no good to me,’ said the man. ‘In order to give my wife the life she deserves, I need one hundred gold coins. That is the miracle I’m waiting for this Christmas Eve.’
     In despair and knowing that if he lingered any longer, no one in his own house would have supper or go to midnight mass, the trader ended up paying one hundred gold coins to get the piece of paper back. As far as the couple were concerned, the miracle had happened. As for the trader, he had done as his wife had asked. His wife, though, was filled with doubt. Had she been too hard on her husband?
     As soon as midnight mass was over, she went to the priest and told him the story.
     ‘Father, my husband met a man who said that you had told him to go to the market and buy the first thing he was offered. My husband, seeing a chance to earn some easy money, wrote him a note on a piece of paper, selling him his place in Paradise. I told my husband that he wouldn’t eat in our house tonight if he didn’t get that piece of paper back, and he ended up having to pay one hundred gold coins for it. Did I go too far? Could a place in Paradise really cost that much?’
     ‘Firstly, your husband was able to show great generosity on this, the most important day in the Christian calendar. Secondly, he became the instrument of God through whom a miracle was performed. But to answer your question: when he sold his place in Heaven for a few pennies, it wasn’t even worth that much; however, when he bought it back for one hundred gold coins simply to make his wife happy, that, I can assure you, made it worth much much more.’

(Based on an Hasidic tale by David Mandel)

Paulo Coelho

With kind permission from the author, Pauo Coelho

"Warrior of the Light, a www.paulocoelho.com.br publication."


"Believe In Your Unlimited Potential"



"You cannot see anything that you do not first contemplate as a reality."

-- Ramtha

How do you typically define yourself? Do you tell yourself and others that you are slow and methodical, that you have two left feet, that you are lazy, or unimaginative or that you can’t hang on to money?

In our unconscious self talk, most of us rarely say positive things about ourselves. List the positive and the negative ways you describe yourself. Then look over your list and contemplate how those definitions limit your ability to be cosmic in your outlook and performance.

"Belief has the word ‘lie’ in it... and that pretty much sums up what the world has us believing about ourselves."

-- Doug Firebaugh

"We are what we believe we are."

-- Benjamin N. Cardozo

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"Stretch Yourself"



"People are defeated by easy, victorious and cheap successes more than by adversity."

-- Benjamin Disraeli

Today’s social standard is one of mediocrity. The status quo rarely challenges our individual creative power.

Create a brand new world for yourself, one that meets your deepest needs. By doing so, you will help raise the quality of consciousness of the entire world. Use your imagination! Sing your own song!

"Success means fulfilling your own dreams, singing your own song, dancing your own dance, creating from your heart and enjoying the journey, trusting that whatever happens, it will be OK. Creating your own adventure!"

-- Elana Lindquist


"What Are You Procrastinating?"


"The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started."

-- Dawson Trotman

Procrastination seriously drains our energy and our morale. What remains undone nags at us.

What are you avoiding? Make a list of items and then review each one. Does it really need to be done? After you've reviewed your list, prioritize it and start one task today.

Please do not procrastinate taking one minute to write down your answer to this question. Capture it on paper and this will help build awareness, commitment and discipline.

"How soon not now, becomes never."

-- Martin Luther

"Talk does not cook rice."

-- Chinese proverb

"Do you know what happens when you give a procrastinator a good idea? Nothing!"

-- Donald Gardner

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"Support Others With Your Presence"



"The purpose of therapy is not to remove suffering but TO MOVE THROUGH IT to an enlarged consciousness that can sustain the polarity of painful opposites."

-- James Hollis

How do we support others who are suffering?

When we understand how soul works through us, we begin to see how pain generates the impulse to change. We see that our aim in supporting someone is NOT to get rid of their pain and suffering. Instead, we want to assist them to understand what the pain is trying to teach them -- to find meaning in their distress.

Often, all we need do is be fully present to them. It also helps to be present to our own experience and genuine in our feelings. Living our own truth helps create the space for the other person to live theirs.

"The first duty of love is to listen."

-- Paul Tillich

"With the gift of listening comes the gift of healing."

-- Catherine de Hueck Doherty

"Use Your Breath To Relax Your Body"

 

"Breath is the link between the inner and outer worlds."

-- Alice Christensen

We live in very demanding times, and our health depends on our being able to relieve our bodies and minds from constant stress. Breathing with awareness can focus and concentrate our attention inside. This slows down our pace and eases the pressure, anxiety, anticipation and excitement that are common stress reactions.

At any time, you can consciously experience your breathing to help you concentrate your mind and relax your body. Compare how you feel after your session with how you felt before. Write about your experience in your journal.

"Controlled deep breathing helps the body to transform the air we breathe into energy. The stream of energized air produced by properly executed and controlled deep breathing produces a current of inner energy which radiates throughout the entire body and can be channeled to the body areas that need it the most, on demand."

-- Nancy Zi


"Live In Relaxation"



"It would be glorious to see mankind at leisure for once. It is nothing but work, work, work."

-- Henry David Thoreau

Is relaxation possible only when we’re not working? No. With awareness and practice, we can be relaxed no matter what we are doing. In fact, when we work in a relaxed state, our productivity increases as our effort decreases.

For true relaxation, we need to connect with our bodies -- to consciously and intentionally become aware of tension and release it.

"Anxiety breaks a man’s backbone."

-- Hebrew proverb

"Don't hurry, don't worry. You're only here for a short visit. So be sure to stop and smell the flowers."

-- Walter Hagen

"Celebrate Differences"



“Souls don’t have races or sexes or religions. They are beyond artificial divisions.”

-- Brian Weiss

Intolerance of differences always exists in people who don’t know who they are, people who don’t have a strong sense of their own authentic self, the soul within.

Intolerance is rooted in fear.

The basis for having a strong sense of self-esteem is to replace our unconscious idea of basic unworthiness with a conscious knowing of our fundamental inherent goodness. As Matthew Fox argues in Original Blessing, the notion of ‘original sin’ must be replaced with the truth of ‘original blessing.’

Being in touch with our essential goodness, we can see the essential goodness in others as well.

“Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite.”

-- Paul Ferrini


"Do You Believe In Yourself?"


“We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves.”

-- Orison Swett Marden

What do you believe about yourself?

If you are experiencing a lack of something in your life, chances are that you hold a belief in your subconscious that says you aren't worthy of having that quality. Write in your journal the answer to these questions for yourself:

- Where are you not good enough, not worthy enough?
- How willing are you to receive?

"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit."

-- e. e. cummings

"Who Sets The Standards You Live By?"



“If I get to pick what I want to do, then it's play... if someone else tells me that I have to do it, then it's work.”

-- Patricia Nourot

Are you continually struggling to accomplish what is expected of you? If so, stop to think for a moment: who holds those expectations?

Perhaps you’re trying to meet the expectations of a parent or a teacher or other authority figures who may be long gone from your life. But many of us toil under the critical eyes of a vague ‘somebody’ who always judges that we’ve never done enough or done things well enough. Who is this phantom judge? And do we need to care about what they think any longer?

We find both our own power and happiness when we begin to set our own standards around what has heart and meaning for us.

“Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever.”

-- Nancy Kerrigan

THE THREE LEVELS OF ACCEPTANCE



"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."

-The Serenity Prayer


When I talk to people about the concept of accepting their lives and everything
in it, the most common argument I hear is that acceptance in some way equals
acquiescence - that to accept what is (say war, famine, disease, etc.) is the
equivalent of giving in to it or worse still, condoning it, offering our tacit
approval by the mere act of not actively opposing it.

But as Carl Jung said:

"We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate,
it oppresses."

In this sense, we can usefully talk about three levels of acceptance:


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Level One - Grudging Acceptance
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'Do not go gentle into that good night;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light!'

-Dylan Thomas

Grudging acceptance is simply a reluctant acknowledgement that what is, is. We
don't want it to be this way, we don't think it should be this way, if we can
we'll make damn sure someone will pay for it being this way - but we do accept
that it is this way, for now. Despite all the qualifications, this is a very
important first step.

For example, in families where someone is dying of a fatal illness, it is not
uncommon for at least some family members to pretend it's not happening, as if
the act of acknowledgement would lend the disease a 'realness' it doesn't already
have.

But as anyone who is not an ostrich has already realized, pretending something
isn't happening doesn't actually make it go away. This is why acknowledging what
is - even grudgingly - is a true act of courage. We don't know if we can do
anything about our situation, but we have found the strength inside our hearts to
face it and find out.


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Level Two - Peaceful Acceptance
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"Let life happen to you. Believe me: life is in the right, always."

-Rainer Maria Rilke

I will always remember a class I attended with Byron Katie (see the 'Want to
Learn More?' section at the end of this tip to learn more) where a young woman
was talking about her history of childhood abuse that included her having been
locked in a cage by her father for weeks at a time.

In a matter of minutes, Katie's gentle questioning had guided her to a place
where she was able to make her peace with what had happened and how it had
affected her in the intervening years.

What happened next amazed me. In sharp contrast to the relaxed, serene energy
that poured out of the woman who had been abused, several people in the audience
went on the attack, first challenging the validity of what had just happened and
when that proved fruitless, threatening to turn both women in to the authorities
for practicing witchcraft!

Yet all that had happened is the young woman had made the choice to be at peace
instead of continuing to rage against her past. She had literally 'made her
peace', accepting that not only had what happened happened, but that her own
safety and well-being would in no way be enhanced by continuing to keep the
internal battle alive.

This is different to the apathy of learned helplessness, where we no longer fight
because we are sure that we will lose. True peaceful acceptance is always
accompanied by a feeling of genuine peace. If you feel 'dead or dread' when you
think about something, it is more likely that you've given up hope than you've
accepted what is.

Paradoxically, when we make peace by ending the battle, we may still work to
change things - but we can now do so with a clear acceptance of what is within
our control and what is not.

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Level Three - Loving (Grateful) Acceptance
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"Hating is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

-Unknown

A few years back, I was hiking in the mountains above the Option Institute with
four men, all of whom had autistic children. I expected the conversation to be a
commiseration of woe, and even mentally prepared some of my own sad stories to
share so that I might 'fit in'. To my amazement, they each in turn expressed
their heartfelt opinion that having an autistic child was the greatest thing that
had ever happened to them.

One man spoke of how dealing with his daughter's illness had led him to
re-evaluate his priorities and leave a job he hated in order to spend more time
with his family. Another told me that he and his wife's shared commitment to
accept and deal with his son's autism had saved his marriage.

The third man shared how his previously rebellious teenage children from an
earlier relationship had come back into his life as they shared in the care and
responsibility for their autistic sister, and the last man said that when his son
finally made eye contact with him after more than a year of working with him, he
rediscovered his faith.

These are the true gifts of acceptance, at any level...

*At level one, we are at war, but at least we are engaged with life.

*At level two, we are not only at peace, we become open to the seemingly
miraculous.

*At level three, we are in love with life, and able to do whatever we know to do
to make things the way we want them. We finally have access, as the serenity
prayer asks for us, to all the courage, wisdom and serenity we could possibly
desire.


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Today's Experiment:
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1. Throughout the day today, notice all the little (and not so little) ways in
which you are resisting what is. Pay special attention to the feeling that
certain things 'shouldn't' be the way that they are. If you like, make a list of
some of those 'shouldn't's.

Example:
*My partner shouldn't have left the toilet seat up
*I shouldn't have gotten angry with the kids this morning
*My boss shouldn't have embarrassed me in front of my team
*The government shouldn't be meddling in _______________.


2. For each item on the list, see what you can do to take it to the next level of
acceptance.

Here are some idea starters:

a. To take something from denial to grudging acceptance, simply acknowledge that
it is how it is, for now.

b. To take something from grudging to peaceful acceptance, simply add the phrase,
acknowledge your preference for something different to have happened and add the
phrase "...and I choose to be at peace" to each 'shouldn't' on your list.

Examples:

*I would prefer I hadn't lost my temper with the kids, and I choose to be at
peace.

*I would prefer that the government wasn't meddling in _____________, and I
choose to be at peace.


c. To take something from peaceful to loving acceptance, begin the sentence with
the phrase "I'm glad..." and then add something to make the sentence true.

Examples:

*I'm glad my partner left the toilet seat up, because it reminded me I have
someone wonderful to share my life with.

*I'm glad my boss embarrassed me in front of my team, because it made me aware
that I wasn't being true to my highest values in the way I've been doing my job.

Don't be afraid to have fun with this - what may seem ridiculous when you begin
may feel completely real (and wonderful!) by the time you are done.

Have fun, learn heaps, and love what is!

Until next time,
michael

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To have succeeded...

"To laugh often and love much, to win the respect of intelligent
persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of
honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends to
appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one's self;
to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden
patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with
enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has
breathed easier because you have lived - this is to have succeeded."

~Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)

Intimacies...

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Understanding the sense of truce


     A warrior of the light does not keep always repeating the same struggle. If the fight, after some time, neither goes forwards or backwards, he understands that he must sit down with the enemy and discuss a truce.
     Both have already practiced the art of fencing and now need to reach an agreement. It is a gesture of dignity – and not of cowardliness. It is a balance of strengths, and a change of strategy.
     After outlining the plans for peace, the warriors return to their houses. They don’t need to prove anything to anyone; they fought the good Fight, and kept faith. Each one gave in a little, thus learning the art of negotiation.

Paulo Coelho

With kind permission from the Author

"Warrior of the Light, a www.paulocoelho.com.br publication."


Crises and their booby-traps

 
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     As we all know, Achilles was the son of the union of a mortal with a goddess. As every mother always wants to protect her child from all dangers, she immersed him in a river whose waters would make him immortal, but held onto him by the heel, which is why he became vulnerable at that point (there are versions of the myth where the hero was immersed in dragon’s blood, and a leaf stuck to his heel). Hence the words Achilles’ heel, showing that regardless of the strength we may feel we have, there is always a way of getting to us. Clearly, the hero in this case, dies with an arrow that exactly hits his weak point.
     In 2001, I read “A Sindrome de Aquiles” (The Achilles Syndrome), by journalist Mario Rosa. The book discusses something more topical than ever: the crisis.
     In his book, Rosa warns us: “the crisis is showing signs”.
     Since I read these words, I began to note that before certain storms invade our back yard, they send small messages, that we ignore due to laziness or because we think they do not deserve our attention. Exactly because of this, at the moment when the wind begins to blow violently, we are absolutely unprepared for the thunder claps that follow everywhere, and it only remains for us, as Rosa says, to cope as well as we can with the ensuing devastation. I took the liberty to use his book as a guide to try to draw a map of our personal storms.
     Origin: the crisis always comes from outside, even if we think that sometimes it only appears in our souls. Usually, something insignificant that happened in childhood may bring major consequences in mature life.
     The crisis arrives to destroy: however much we try, romantically, to associate the word “crisis” to the word “opportunity” (as the Chinese do), that association is only possible when we are prepared for the unexpected. As this is rarely the case, the crisis arrives and begins to crush everything around us.
     The truth doesn’t help: recently, during the publication of my new book, “Zahir”, a Russian dress designer said, in Moscow’s widest circulation newspaper, that the story was based on our “love affair” (the muse who inspired it was in fact Christina Lamb, war correspondent of the English newspaper Sunday Times). I was silly enough to send a letter denying it. Practical result: who had not read the original story, heard about it because of the letter. And soon speculations began on how men, when their back is to the wall, always allege innocence.
     A problem, however small it may be, can create a gigantic crisis: In Brazil, a case of bribing a director of the national postal service, developed into series of accusations affecting various levels of the federal government. At a wedding, a mere delay in returning from work may be the straw that breaks the camel’s back of an entire repressed course of action, which afterwards is hard to contain.
     The facts don’t count, what counts is how public opinion perceives them: I know a girl whose father hates her mother, they are always going through difficulties, all of them at home fight like cats and dogs – but always in low voices. While the girl has excellent grades at school, while the neighbours don’t know anything, while “public opinion” is not enlightened, the impression will be that the world is under control.
     Everything becomes devastating ammunition: as a crisis always means words falling on deaf ears, where one doesn’t hear what the other is saying, arguments are useless. If you say “I love oranges”, the person will understand that you detest potatoes and is insinuating that he is unhappy because exactly that night he was served a plate of potato chips at dinner.
     A crisis always involves a symbol: it can be an institution like marriage, a professional career, a company, religion, love, or a code of conduct.
     I am ending this matter with the opinion of others who study the subject (Helio Fred Garcia, Professor of Communication of New York University, and Daí Williams, of the Eos Career Service, and a text from the University of South Australia). I have sought to use these specialists’ texts from the point of view of the individual crisis, although the greater part refers to political and economic events.
     Once a crisis has begun, the worst ways to react are:
     A] To ignore the problem. Mary knows that John, her husband, is about to be fired from his job, which will make it hard for the family to survive. However, as John doesn’t mention the matter, she pretends she doesn’t know.
     B] To deny the problem. John, on his side, thinks that with the contacts he has made during life, he will get another opportunity and, therefore, doesn’t see that he is in a difficult situation. He forgets that one of the hardest rules of life, said by Jesus, was: “to those that have little, the little they have will be taken from them”. At the moment when he loses his job all these contacts will disappear also, because John will no longer have anything to offer in exchange.
     C] To refuse to ask for help. John and Mary spent many years together, and know each other extremely well. John’s mind is full of problems, because the crisis absorbs all the energies of the human being. Mary perhaps could help him – but pride does not let him share his difficulties. The result is that, unable to think clearly, John sinks further and further into the ocean of his difficulties.
     D] To lie or tell half-truths. One day, Mary screws up courage and, when going to bed, asks if something is wrong. John answers: “I’m thinking of changing job”. Clearly, from the legal point of view this may be considered true - John, as he is about to be fired, really is thinking about finding a new job. Mary does not anything else. The pressure in John’s mind increases, because he suspects that his wife knows something, but now that he has lied, he can no longer use the truth as a way of saving himself.
     E] To blame others. John knows that he is a reputable man, that he was always been honest at work and tried to give the best of himself. He thinks his boss is unfair, that he doesn’t deserve what is happening. The fact is that perhaps the boss is experiencing the same drama, because all of them are guided by abstract organisations called “companies”. Even so, faced by what he considers absurd, instead of keeping a cool head to handle the moment, he thinks that the world is made of evil and cruel people.
     F] To overestimate one’s own capability: John begins saying that as he has talent, as he is capable of doing this and that, he ends up convincing himself that he is not facing a crisis, but rather a new opportunity. John has a lot of talent, but that is not enough, because he is not ready for the blow, which takes away his breath and his enthusiasm.
     Because all the wrong steps were taken, the day arrives and John is sent away. From then on, the family is on the brink of ruin, because of the precious time lost denying disaster.
     What to do, then? Well, I have been through many crises in my life and I think I have made all the mistakes described above. Even so, perhaps in the worst of all my crises, friends have appeared. Since then, the first thing I do is, simply, to ask for help. Clearly the final decision will be my full responsibility but, instead of trying to seem strong, I have never regretted showing myself to be vulnerable to my wife and my friends. And when I begin to act like that, my capacity to make mistakes drops a lot, although it continues there, always waiting to strike.


Paulo Coelho

With kind permission from the Author.

"Warrior of the Light, a www.paulocoelho.com.br publication."

"The Challenge Of Relationships"



"It doesn't much signify whom one marries, for one is sure to find out the next morning that it was someone else."

-- Samuel Rogers

Despite our passion for romantic love, relationships are not the easiest way to find love and peace. They are, however, one of the most effective for finding our blocks.

Relationships naturally bring out into full view our desires, attachments and unconscious programs – our likes, dislikes, belief systems, judgments, compulsions, conformities, etc. Relationships challenge us because they take us deep into thoughts, feelings and experiences we have suppressed for a lifetime. That’s why they provide the very best arena for personal growth!

“Human relationships are the perfect tool for sanding away our rough edges and getting at the core of divinity within us.”

-- Eknath Easwaran

"Open To The Moment"



“Why not concentrate on the now instead of hoping for better times in the future? Why not understand the now instead of forgetting it and hoping for the future? Isn’t the future just another trap?”

-- Anthony de Mello

Soul exists only in this moment. Every moment, no matter what the conditions, offers opportunities to touch and experience life in a new way. Our egos, with their fears and desires, easily get trapped in the past and the future, but the power to change exists only in this moment.

We don’t need to know more or have more before we can live more deeply. We simply need to pay attention to what’s happening now. To open without judgment to the worlds around and within us.

“Nothing is worth more than this day. You cannot relive yesterday. Tomorrow is still beyond your reach.”

-- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

A seemingly difficult situation



If necessary take time to be still and meditate on a seemingly difficult situation until all difficulties dissolve in the stillness, with the Light of Truth beamed onto it. Then see it upheld in great Love.

Nothing can withstand this tremendous power.

With love and many blessings,

Eileen