One day a father and his rich family took his young son on a trip to the
country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They
spent a day and a night in the farm of a very poor family. When they got
back from their trip the father asked his son, "How was the trip?"

Very good, Dad!"

"Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked.

"Yeah!" "And what did you learn?"

The son answered, "I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden, they have a
creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden, they have
the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard, they have a whole

When the little boy was finishing, his father was speechless.

His son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are!" Isn't it
true that it all depends on the way you look at things? If you have love,
friends, family, health, good humor and a positive attitude toward life,
you've got everything!

You can't buy any of these things. You can have all the material
possessions you can imagine, provisions for the future, etc., but if you
are poor of spirit, you have nothing!

Author Unknown


No one else, ever, will be as good at being you as you are. Be true to
yourself, to your understanding, to your ideals. Your contribution to
humanity, then, will be unique and valuable.

Radiating Love and Light


When you radiate Love and Light, don't just sit there hoping it is going out from you, but concentrate on it with your whole heart, mind, soul and strength and really feel the power flowing from you. Feel your heart expand and expand as it pours forth love like a fast-flowing river. Let go and let it flow in full force.

When you learn to do this you will begin to see results, not just in your own life but in the lives of the many.

With love and many blessings,

"It's Okay To Dream!"

“Don’t discard your fantasies as merely wishful thinking. Honor them as messages from the deepest part of your being about what you can do and directions you can choose.”

-- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer

What are your deepest heart-felt desires, dreams and visions?

Our deepest desires and dreams align with the essence of who we are. The more we align with that essence, the more our life holds meaning, purpose and fulfilment. Do you have a sense of your destiny?

"Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born."

-- Dale E. Turner

“Everybody builds a dream in their lifetime. You’re either going to build your dream, or somebody else's. So build your own!"

-- Christopher LaBrec

"Shifting Consciousness"

"The world we are experiencing today is the result of our collective consciousness, and if we want a new world, each of us must start taking responsibility for helping create it."

-- Rosemary Fillmore Rhea

Below are 7 levels of consciousness that clearly outline a path for our evolving consciousness:

- tribal and mass consciousness - one obeys the group and lives by trial and error
- individual consciousness - one develops a stronger sense of self and ego
- seeker’s consciousness - one asks questions and seeks independence
- intuitive consciousness - one develops the heart and is becoming spiritually aware
- group consciousness - one serves a higher good filling the needs of others
- soul consciousness - one experiences spiritual service.

On which level do you spend most of your time? What are you doing to shift to the next level of being?

There are as many paths to understanding, awareness, peace, freedom, love and meaningful service as there are people. Enjoy your journey!

"Consciousness is not just some by-product of the human brain mass. Consciousness is all pervasive. It is in everything and is everywhere. Your individual human consciousness exists within and is a part of a universal consciousness."

-- Delfin Knowledge System

"God acts in history: that is, God provides ideas, methods, and experiences intended to bring comprehension to man, an understanding heart, a conscious life."

-- Jacob Needleman


Take time to listen to the children playing. From their laughter, learn lessons in innocence. From their openness, learn lessons in trust. From their guilelessness, learn lessons in truthfulness and sincerity. It isn’t maturity that robs us of these virtues: It is immaturity, embittered by disappointment. With maturity comes understanding; from understanding comes acceptance; and from acceptance, finally, comes wisdom.

"Heal The Past"

"What you bring forth out of yourself from the inside will save you. What you do not bring forth out of yourself from the inside will destroy you."

-- Gospel of Thomas

We can transform painful memories by re-imagining them from the soul’s perspective of love and meaning.

Andrew Schneider says that all experiences have the purpose of serving the soul. An experience in the past blocked us because our fear at the time distorted our perception of what happened. To transform this limiting experience, we must bring what was then unconscious into the soul’s realm through consciousness.

We can do this by following these steps:

1. RECALL the past experience that might inhibit us.

2. OWN the experience (no judgment, blame, etc.).

3. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for it and the consequences (i.e., the experience was determined by my subjective perception of what occurred, dictated by my lack of wholeness -- specifically my fears).

4. GIVE IT MEANING (the soul was attempting to gain some kind of mastery or skill, but we didn’t know that at the time).

5. RE-IMAGINE it from the perspective of soul consciousness (showing its higher purpose).

"Letting go of our suffering is the hardest work we will ever do. It is also the most fruitful. To heal means to meet ourselves in a new way -- in the newness of each moment where all is possible and nothing is limited to the old."

-- Stephen Levine


hvit blomst

The seed cannot know what is going to happen, the seed has never
known the flower. And the seed cannot even believe that he has the
potentiality to become a beautiful flower. Long is the journey, and
it is always safer not to go on that journey because unknown is the
path, nothing is guaranteed.

Nothing can be guaranteed. Thousand and one are the hazards of the
journey, many are the pitfalls - and the seed is secure, hidden
inside a hard core. But the seed tries, it makes an effort; it drops
the hard shell which is its security, it starts moving. Immediately
the fight starts: the struggle with the soil, with the stones, with
the rocks. And the seed was very hard and the sprout will be very,
very soft and dangers will be many.

There was no danger for the seed, the seed could have survived for
millennia, but for the sprout many are the dangers. But the sprout
starts towards the unknown, towards the sun, towards the source of
light, not knowing where, not knowing why. Great is the cross to be
carried, but a dream possesses the seed and the seed moves. The same
is the path for man. It is arduous. Much courage will be needed. This
small wildflower has met the challenge of the rocks and stones in its
path to emerge into the light of day. Surrounded by an aura of bright
golden light, it exposes the majesty of its tiny self. Unashamed, it
is equal to the brightest sun.

When we are faced with a very difficult situation we have a choice:
we can either be resentful, and try to find somebody or something to
blame for the hardships, or we can face the challenge and grow.

The flower shows us the way, as its passion for life leads it out of
the darkness and into the light. There is no point fighting against
the challenges of life, or trying to avoid or deny them. They are
there, and if the seed is to become the flower we must go through
them. Be courageous enough to grow into the flower you are meant to
be. ~*Osho*



"If you need more faith or belief, ask God and the angels to help you and you'll feel the shift very soon."

Your soul....

We all had dreams, but somewhere along the way, life interfered – so we convinced ourselves that our dreams were just wishful thinking. We lost our ability to listen to our own needs, trust our intuition, and develop our sense of self, as we listened to everyone else’s opinion as to how we should live our lives.

The secret to success is to embrace potential, not fear it. It’s natural to be afraid, but it’s not okay to let fear hold you back. You will discover what you’re most afraid of in life:  It may be the fear of being alone, of failing, of being criticized, of being let down, or of looking like a dreamer or a flake. Maybe you fear success and what changes it might bring, since you may need to step out of your comfort zone to make your life better. You could fear not being good enough, and you’ll try to do anything to hide that fear from the world. But in order to make necessary and lasting changes, you must understand how fear has affected you, along with the choices you’ve made that have brought you where you are today.

Embracing your potential also means that you have to follow the path that’s right for your life. That doesn’t always mean following the right path in everyone else’s eyes – and sometimes it means making choices that you’ve never had to make before. You’ll be just fine if you face the fears that are holding you back and learn not to ever let those fears stop you.

You’ve probably heard the analogy that self-discovery is like peeling back layers of an onion. Deep inside the onion is a little shiny core that equates to your spirit intuition, while the outside of the onion is like your wall of protection, your safe exterior. Some of us have layers so deep that we’ve lost touch with our soul, so getting to that core takes time, effort, honesty, and courage.

If you don’t demand the most of yourself,
You can never demand it out of life,
and life only gives us what we demand of it.

It's all meant to be....

Winter forest 
As I sit in the stillness of my office and gaze out my
windows, I am acutely aware of my surroundings.
The sounds of a beautiful New Age CD fills my space
with tranquility and the warmth of my lit candles and
the smell of lavender oil, simmering in the air, remind
me of some exotic spa that I hope to visit very soon.
The aroma of my hot peppermint tea, mingled with
the scent of
arouses my senses and evokes a feeling of health
and wellness within me. Tiny snowflakes being tossed
around, ever so playfully, outside the comfort and
warmth of my
home awaken my awe at the serenity I'm surrounded
by. I am so grateful.

I breathe it in and give thanks for my blessings. My
mind calming, my heart rate slowing, I
close my eyes for a brief moment of nothingness.

All is as it’s meant to be -- All will work out
perfectly, I
realize, as this calmness slides down over my
neck and into my shoulders and chest.

I need to remind myself, more often, that I must slow
down long enough to celebrate these simple joys. I
would by lying if I tried to pretend that I, like most
women, don’t get so caught up in the hustle and
bustle of life that candles, lavender oil, and beautiful
music seems wonderfully romantic to wish for but is
just not a reality and certainly not a necessity. And
yet, the more that I am back coaching so many
women again, I know it is not impractical, or frivolous
at all, for us to do these simple yet immensely
significant acts of self-love. It is absolutely
necessary and should not even be an option in our
busy and stressful lives. These simple acts make all
the difference between surviving and thriving.
Between numbing and knowing!

We, women, are more stressed-out and discontent
than ever before! We are searching for something --
some answer -- some solution -- some meaning
to our
lives. Nevertheless, I truly believe that it is the
searching that may, in fact, be the devious
distracter from us ever attaining. We can get so
busy being busy that we don’t even realize what
we’ve lost in all the chaos -- ourselves.

So, why not carve out a moment today to step away
from all the things you think you should do, and just
become acutely aware of the moment— to just be
totally present, without worry or
thought and just “breathe it in"
and give thanks for what you do have.

Most often just by becoming present in all that you
do, whether that is while washing the dishes or
having a bath, even when driving in traffic, you’ll
discover the perfection in each moment. You, too,
will realize that all is as it’s meant to be and that
everything will work out perfectly.

When you turn off the television, put down the fork,
put the cork back in the wine bottle, and forget
about who’s done what, who you are mad at, and
where you MUST get to, you’ll begin seeing the
beauty that surrounds you. You’ll begin seeing the
beauty within you. Your life will begin to unfold like a
masterpiece and
you’ll see all the living that needs to be done! All the
living that is passing
you by whether you want it to or not.

We all have the "shoulds" that we need to get done,
today I ask you to think about the "coulds" that
would actually make you so much happier, healthier,
and joyous.

I started just by lighting some candles,
simmering some lavender oil, and listening to some
beautiful music. What are you going to do?

In love & light,

The mouse and the books

     When I was interned in Dr. Eiras Hospital, I began to have panic crises. One day, I decided to consult the psychiatrist in charge of my case:
     "Doctor, I am overcome by fear; it takes from me the joy of living".
     "Here in my office there is a mouse that eats my books", said the doctor. “If I get desperate about this mouse, he will hide from me and I will do nothing else in life but hunt him. Therefore, I put the most important books in a safe place and let him gnaw some others.
     “In this way, he is still a mouse and does not become a monster. Be afraid of some things and concentrate all your fear on them – so that you have courage in the rest."

Paulo Coelho

With permision from the author

"How To Take Total And Complete Control of Your Life."

It sounds like a pretty wild claim, doesn't it?

The control of anything outside of our actions or reactions is an illusion. It is our thoughts, actions and reactions that we can control. Any action that we create, mental or physical, will cause a reaction. In chapter two [of my book], an interaction is created to explore the possibilities and the illusion of what we've considered "control" in our lives.

Since I did not major in philosophy, I'll keep it simple, for my sake. There are consequences to everything we do in life either positive or negative. As we progress, we learn lessons from life's experiences as well as from others. For example, we can become conscious and proficient drivers, but if another driver is not that way, we may be able to avoid the consequences of their actions by being appropriately reactive. We will have no control over what they do only what we do.

We might take a wrong turn on a street or down a hallway and find something, or someone, wonderful that we might not have otherwise found. That's another reason to consider life, as Helen Keller said, "... as an exciting adventure or nothing. " What's ahead of us, behind, to the side or coming tomorrow, are things over which we have no control, except for what we set in motion and how we react to the consequences.

The control that we have in life is conscious control. We have the unique ability to be proactive and reactive because we can learn at light speed and call up previous life's lessons. That's the difference between being paranoid and conscious. Can we listen to our "inner-voice" to have a sense of what to do now or what to do next? We hear about premonitions, but most of us go through life without any conscious knowing. Being conscious, awake and alert to life, that's true control.

Richard Bach said in Illusions, "If you're wondering if your mission on earth is complete and you're still here, it isn't."

Women aren't the same as men....

Women aren't the same as men; everything about us - from our bodies, hormones, and metabolisms, to our wants and needs - is different. We women are intuitive and sensitive, and most often we respond differently to problems and emotional demands. We're also more likely to be caretakers - we're nurturers and are usually responsible for the needs of others. Generally, we do more of the shopping, cleaning, parenting, nursing, chauffeuring, organizing, cooking, dieting, and (I hate to admit it) complaining than men.

In addition, we're the emotional center of the home. When we're happy, our homes are happy; when we aren't, you can be certain our relationships aren't either. We set the tone. Like my philosophical male dentist says, "Men are primitive." Not us women! We're emotionally complicated and hormonal - we're up, we're down; we have good days and bad. We don't need to hear the staggering depression statistics to tell us that we're searching for something more. We know it. We feel it.

By an large, men are pretty simple creatures; what you see is what you get. Men simply do not place the same burden on themselves, or maybe they just believe that looking perfect isn't that important. Wrinkles, gray hair, and cellulite are something we gals fight, while most guys view themselves as in better shape than they actually are. When we see an older man who's gained 30 pounds, we often say, "Boy, he must be living the good life now," but when woman does, the common sentiment is, "She's really let herself go!"

We women are so hard on ourselves and each other, and unless we've done some serious soul-searching, we're extremely competitive and far too critical. We see ourselves through extremely scrutinizing eyes, and think the world does, too.

to be continued..... comments appreciated!

We Are The Decisive Element

Words are powerful vessels. In a heartbeat they can transport us from
one state of consciousness to another. As some of you may have noticed,
I love what words are capable of igniting inside of us: a fresh
awareness, an undiluted insight, or a shift in perception that can
subtly or dramatically alter the course of our life. Pick almost any day
of the week and you will find me talking with a group of coaching
students over a bridge line, lecturing in front of an audience, coaching
someone on my radio show or writing down the words that just may take
shape in my next book. I'm infinitely turned on by how words - whether
spoke, written, whispered or sung - can connect us and awaken us. I'm
grateful that they serve to remind us of the unbelievably miraculous
opportunity that life is in every moment.

With that said, I'm especially excited to share someone else's words
with you this week - poetic straight talk from the great German novelist
and philosopher, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. At this remarkable time on
our planet, his personal reflections on self-responsibility - a
breathtaking level of responsibility, I must say - are a timeless
invitation for us all:

"I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive

It is my personal approach that creates the climate.

It is my daily mood that makes the weather.

I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.

I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.

I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.

In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is
escalated or de-escalated,

and a person is humanized or de-humanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.

If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they
are capable of becoming."

- Goethe, 1749-1832

Debbie Ford


"Suffering is not holding you, you are holding suffering. When you
become good at the art of letting suffering go, then you'll come to
realize what you were dragging around with you. And for that, no one
else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence
wants your life to become a festival...because when you are unhappy,
you also throw unhappiness all around." ~Osho

Many Blessings to you,

How to Awaken your Kundalini!!

"As Above, So Below"

"There is in all visible things - a hidden wholeness."

-- Thomas Merton

"From a hologrammatic viewpoint, are one little physical image that reflects all of humanity when projected spiritually upon the cosmic screen."

-- Wayne Dyer

"As above, so below."

Everything is connected. The universe is a hologram where every part contains the whole. Outside echoes the inside. The lower is a reflection of the higher. The other is a reflection of you. We are all a microcosm of each other. The big picture is within us and even our cells.

Be open to see the interconnections, influences and inter-relationships of things.

"Unity consciousness is a state of enlightenment where we pierce the mask of illusion which creates separation and fragmentation. Behind the appearance of separation is one unified field of wholeness. Here the seer and the scenery are one."

-- Deepak Chopra

"To me there is no difference between one person and another; I behold all as soul-reflections of the one God. I can't think of anyone as a stranger, for I know that we are all part of the One Spirit."

-- Paramahansa Yogananda

"The Key To Creativity"

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world."

-- Albert Einstein

Do you know the key to creativity?

It rhymes with weed. It produces the oak tree. We often eat it or grind it up for flour. It can mean cause or origination. You guessed it. It is SEED.

Our minds love to associate one thing to another. But as we get stuck in very fixed patterns of thinking, we think of fewer and fewer connections. We are ruled by habits, associations and automatic responses. So we must stimulate our thinking with lots of different seeds to chart new paths in our brains.

“Just as our eyes need light in order to see, our minds need ideas in order to conceive.”

-- Napoleon Hill

“Anyone can look for fashion in a boutique or history in a museum. The creative explorer looks for history in a hardware store and fashion in an airport.”

-- Robert Wieder


Summer will help you understand how Flowdreaming, meditation, and prayer fit together to create a powerful triad...

Summer McStravick

"Open To Trust"

“When I grip the wheel too tight, I find I lose control.”

-- Steve Rapson

WE SEEK TO CONTROL OUR LIVES WHEN WE DO NOT TRUST, WHEN WE DO NOT LOVE. Our ego, perceiving itself to be vulnerable and insecure, uses control in an effort to protect itself.

At the root of our need to control, we find FEAR. It may be fear of the unknown. Fear of not coping. Fear of loss. Or possibly even fear of looking stupid. And as our efforts to control other people and events invariably fail, our fear increases.

Trust, on the other hand, is a quality of the soul. While control is a tool of the mind, TRUST AND FAITH ARE ASPECTS OF THE HEART. Trust comes with the deep knowing that we are spiritual beings in physical bodies. When we trust enough in life to give up our need to control, we can relax and open to the flow of energy in our lives. This brings peace of mind.

"The only real security in life lies in relishing life's insecurity."

-- M. Scott Peck

"Do not abandon trust when your ego thinks things should be different than they are."

-- Wayne Dyer

Cooling Your Emotional Hot Buttons During the Holidays

Each of us has had the astonishing experience of making a positive shift
in our internal world and having the outer world suddenly change. One of
the quickest ways to intentionally achieve this shift is to examine our
emotional hot buttons - the unattended places inside ourselves where we
easily become flustered, angry, jealous or otherwise intensely triggered
by other people. This very human dynamic is a clear sign of projection.
And no time of the year puts projection at center stage like the
holidays! One of the simple explanations for this phenomenon is that we
spend more concentrated time with greater numbers of people: namely, our
families, friends and co-workers. There are so many tempting
opportunities for our egos to jump into the fray, so to speak. There may
be a particular relative whom you only see once a year, and the
emotional state this person evokes in you might be described in one
word: dread. However, this week's newsletter (and my upcoming radio
show) are meant to assure you that emotional freedom during the holidays
can be yours, and you can love the ones you're with! Here's where it

When I'm training coaches or leading The Shadow Process, I always start
by exploring projection. Projection is the involuntary transfer of our
own unconscious beliefs and behaviors onto others, so it appears to us
that these qualities actually exist in the other people. Put simply, we
see in others what we like and don't like in ourselves. You can be
sure that you're projecting whenever you find yourself blaming,
gossiping, making others wrong, defending a position or convinced that
if something "out there" changed you would be okay. Think of someone who
really pushes your buttons. It could be a parent or another relative, a
colleague, a media personality, or a politician. No matter how certain
you are that this person is the cause of your strong reaction, consider
that they are simply a mirror, embodying and reflecting an aspect of
yourself - or a hidden belief - that you have denied or rejected. What
is this reflection showing you?

Owning our projections requires us to take responsibility for what we
call forth and see in other people. It means that when we are affected
by what's happening in the outside world (how people are acting or
organizations are operating, for example), we look inside ourselves
first, rather than trying to make others conform to our standards and
expectations. And as we take responsibility, it is also vitally
important to meet ourselves with the utmost compassion and
understanding. It's essential that we treat ourselves with kindness as
we acknowledge and own the interpretations and perceptions that may have
caused us (and other people) a lot of pain.

Instead of giving your power away to the external world, look inside
yourself. Welcome opportunities to embrace, own and forgive yourself for
what you discover, and begin to see people and situations as they really
are. I promise you that by being faithful to this self-observation
practice you will regain the immense power that you may have temporarily
given away.

With the holiday season just around the corner - with all its anxieties
and stress, as well as its blessings and joy - let yourself be deeply
nourished by this truth: When you make peace with your inner world, you
will shift what you see and experience in the outer world. In other
familiar words, let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.

Take Action Now!

I heartily invite you to join me for my radio program this Thursday at
2PM Pacific titled "Love the Ones You're With." As we approach the
holidays, this show will be an opportunity to join the discussion -
either by listening to the people who, uncannily, call in with your
issue or by calling in yourself for one-on-one coaching with me - in
order to lessen your resistance and soften your heart. Let's look
together at how these next six weeks can be a pleasurable, easy and
unforgettable time of fun and celebration. Please see the information
below. And if you can't listen live at 2 PM on Thursday, you can catch
the replay later than night, just check the schedule on

Debbie Ford

"Ego's Tricks"

"One of the great dangers of transformational work is that the ego attempts to sidestep deep psychological work by leaping into the transcendent too soon. This is because the ego always fancies itself much more ‘advanced’ than it actually is."

-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

The Tibetan teacher, Chogyam Trungpa, warned of the trap of spiritual materialism. He says we must be ever diligent to spot the ego’s use of the spiritual journey to further its own ends.

We may think it’s spiritual to yearn for divine connection. And yet, if the longing is to fill an emptiness inside, just how does this differ from the one who yearns for money or possessions to fill the inner void? Do we look to our spiritual practices as proof of our evolved consciousness or as protection against fears?

Any time we use spiritual disciplines to maintain our identity and security, we are not yet on the path of genuine spiritual development.

"Enlightenment is ego’s ultimate disappointment."

-- Chögyam Trungpa

Thank You...

single rose girl

Let your Life be that of the Rose; in Silence, it speaks the Language of Fragrance. Keep on Living from Your Heart. Thanks for all the lovely messages you all have sent me today...;P

Blessings Maya

"Believe You Are A Creator"

"Every moment of your life is infinitely creative and the universe is endlessly bountiful. Just put forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart desires must come to you."

-- Shakti Gawain

We hold the power to create whatever we desire. Our ability to manifest the changes we desire depends on the depth and passion of our beliefs and on the focus of our attention.

With this understanding, we, as individuals and as society, can design a whole new future for ourselves. Our challenge is to break free of society’s world view, to truly empower our imaginations to create brand new realities. It brings a whole new meaning to ‘vision.’

What do you passionately desire for your own life? For the planet?

"By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The non-existent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired."

-- Nikos Kazantzakis

Your Emotions

You control your emotions, so you do not have to explode with anger whenever someone else decides to behave in angry ways.

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Radio For Your Soul...

Radio For Your Soul...

"Don't Avoid The Void"

"When we feel stuck, going nowhere -- even starting to slip backward -- we may actually be backing up to get a running start."

-- Dan Millman

To change, we must go through a transition zone. It's not easy being in transition. Thoughts, beliefs and habits are all in flux. It can create a sense of groundlessness, of being in a void that can be quite uncomfortable.

When we’re in the void, our first impulse will be to revert to old habits because they feel comfortable. Our goal is to hang in there until the change is complete. Knowing that TRANSITIONS ARE PART OF THE CHANGE PROCESS helps us muster the courage to put up with the discomfort, the uneasiness, the void.

Change requires a letting go of what we’ve always known and done to allow in something new. We need to trust ourselves and higher forces to unfold a new reality for us.

"Every positive change - every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness - involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception."

-- Dan Millman

Life Is a Mystery To Be Lived


"Life is not a problem. It's mystery to be lived, loved and
experienced!" ~Osho


There are three basic responses to life. The first is resisting what
is. Our body contracts, tightens in and constricts when we feel
threatened, out of control or hurt in some way. The second is
allowing what is. This is an experience of trust, release and
expansion. We interpret life as a safe, loving and nurturing place,
and we relax, let go. Our lives feel open and spacious. The third,
which contains components of the first two, is a neutral
non-identified response. When we are truly detached, we have no
opinion, and are free from all forms of judgment and limitation of
any experience that arises.


One of the greatest blessings to humanity is your sensitivity, your
consciousness. ~Osho

In each of these responses is the possibility of discovering your own
awareness. So that we may essentially be able to experience more of
our own existence. If you take a close look and notice, all three of
these experiences happen to you everyday. On some subtle or intense
level, your bodymind will contract with suffering, expand with joy,
or not really have any particular response at all. It all depends on
where your awareness is fixated on. Wherever your attention goes, the
experience flows. If you are attached or avoiding certain people,
thoughts, feelings or experiences you will create some form of
suffering. Transcending suffering means embracing and releasing each
of the three conditioned responses, immediately as they arise.


Life is the school, love is the lesson. ~Bumper Sticker

Our moods, attitudes, and personalities are formed by our perception
of reality. The color of the blue sky may be very calming and
soothing to some girl who is lying on her back in a warm field of
grass, being absorbed by the deep blue yonder. An air traffic
controller may not even notice the sky has any color at all, as he is
panicking about two planes trying to land at the same time. A young
child may not even know what the color blue is, and can be looking at
the sky and not even see that there is anything there at all.


If I create from the heart, nearly everything works;
if from the head, almost nothing. ~Marc Chagall

Where we focus our attention determines what we will experience.
However, the essential key to life mastery is being present and open
to experiencing each new moment, whatever it brings. Being aware of
your body's signals that are always telling you when you are attached
or in avoidance of anything. Just being an open vessel to experiencing
life, in all its flavors and colors, we let go or needing to always be
in control and start to flow with the river. High and low experiences
will continuously happen through us. Yet whether we choose to resist
the negative or hang on to the positive is what determines our


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away. ~Author Unknown


How often have you found yourself gripping with anxiety or fear over
some situation you thought was going to happen yet never did? It's an
everyday occurrence for many people who are caught in some form of
over-identification from our hype-driven society. We all have been
trained, programmed and conditioned to react (instead of responding
consciously) to information that we hear, feel and see with an
unconscious yet instantaneous contraction. Several years ago, many
scientists did a study on human perception and found that we spend
only 2% of our time in reality (the present moment). The other 98% of
our time is spent in illusions our mind creates about the past and the
future. We are completely missing the reality that is really happening


Research done on people who've had near death experiences has shown
there are two questions that are always asked at the 'pearly gates'
of heaven. #1 What did you contribute? #2 You compared to you, how
much of your potentiality did you use? ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross


Every one of us (to some degree) has an inner "drama addict" who is
unconsciously addicted to hearing about the latest town gossip, what
terrible things are happening in the world, and even gets sucked into
the thrill of watching some stressed out dramatic movie. We feel lost
if life starts to become repetitive, dry or predictable. So we tend
to create this tension in our mind by getting overly involved with
drama around us and end up creating more problems for ourselves than
were there previously. This unconscious saboteur programming, is what
happens when we step out. When we avoid certain thoughts and feelings
in our bodies about the life situations we are really in, we tend to
replace them with these other dramatic illusions. We would rather
live our entire lives in this illusionary dramatic world rather than
let it go, face the unknown and live completely in the unknown, a
state of formless non-identified Reality.


"The price of our vitality is the sum of all our fears. We are on the
homeward journey. Everything in your life is grist for the mill of
that journey." ~David Whyte

My message to you today is that everything you experience in your is
part of your path to awakening. All roads lead to Rome, and all paths
lead to Enlightenment. Life is a mystery to be lived, enjoyed, and
celebrated. Your future will contain both painful and pleasure full
experiences. Yet how you choose to respond to this circumstances is
always up to you! When you decide to dive heart-first into each
experience fully, you will have the life you always wanted to
experience. Your heart will be open, the mystery of life is revealed
to you in each moment completely and perfectly as it always was.

So be aware when you are judging what someone may say next, or
attempting to hold onto something that is already gone, your true
unlimited self (that is exuberant with life) can only be found in
this present moment. This presence that you are is this radiant
source of bliss. It is the only place you can discover true freedom
in your life. The here and now is the only place we will ever find

Many Blessings to you,
Jafree <>;

The importance of looking

     At first Lex Maars was just a persistent fellow. For five years he religiously sent to my office in Barcelona an invitation for me to give a lecture at The Hague in Holland.
     For five years my office invariably answered that my agenda was full. The truth is that the agenda is not always full, but a writer is not necessarily someone who can speak well in public. Besides, everything that I have to say is in the books and columns I write – that is why I always avoid giving talks.
     Lex discovered that I was going to record a program for a TV channel in Holland. When I came down for the filming, he was waiting for me in the hotel lobby. He introduced himself and asked me to accompany him, saying:
     “I am not someone who can’t take “no” for an answer. It’s just that I believe I’ve been trying to do things the wrong way.”
     One has to fight for one’s dreams, but one also has to know that when certain paths prove impossible, it’s better to save one’s energies for other paths. I could simply say “no” (I have often said and heard that word), but I decided to try something more diplomatic: set conditions that were impossible to fulfill. I said I would not charge for the lecture, but admission must be less than two Euros and the room must be limited to 200 people at the most.
     Lex agreed.
     “You’re going to spend more than you make,” I warned. “By my count, the airline ticket and the hotel alone cost three times what you will get if you manage to have a full house. Then there is the cost of publicity, renting the hall …”
     Lex interrupted me saying that none of that was of any importance, he was doing that because of what he saw in his profession.
     “I organize events because I have to go on believing that human beings are seeking a better world. I have to contribute to making that become possible.”
     What was his profession?
     “I sell churches.”
     I stood astonished as he continued:
     “I am employed by the Vatican to select buyers, since there are more churches than churchgoers in Holland. And since we have had awful experiences in the past, seeing sacred places turned into nightclubs, condominiums, boutiques and even sex shops, we changed our sales system. The project has to be approved by the community and the buyer must say what he is going to do with the property: as a rule we accept only proposals that include a cultural center, a charity institution or a museum.
     “So what does that have to do with your talk, and the others that I am trying to organize? People are no longer meeting one another. When they do not meet, they do not grow.”
     He looked me straight in the eye and concluded:
     “Meetings. That was precisely my mistake with you. Instead of sending a bunch of e-mails, I should have shown right away that I was made of flesh and blood. When I failed to get an answer from a politician, I went and knocked on his office door and he told me: “If you want something, first of all you have to show your eyes.” That’s what I have done ever since then and I have had nothing but good results. We can have all the available means of communication in the world, but nothing, absolutely nothing takes the place of the human look.”
     Of course, I finally accepted his proposal.
Paulo Coelho

With permission from Author,

"Warrior of the Light, a publication."

The Divine Heart Chakra Meditation

This meditation will bring a great feeling of love and expansiveness
into your chest
and into your Life. You will notice an amazing and profound shift in
the amount
of love in your life, lighter consciousness, and feelings of being
deeply and permanently connected with a Infinite Source of good. It
is guranteed to increase your vibration and enlighten your

Step #1 For 5-7 minutes, let your mind dwell on the energy of a
divine, sacred or holy being. Perhaps this is Christ, Buddha, Mother
Mary, a Saint, Avatar, enlightened Guru, or someone you truly admire
and look up to spiritually. Visualize them standing right in front of
you. If you are not familiar or feel close to any divine being, you
can imagine your higher self. However summoning an image of them will
be helpful in subconsciously accessing the expansive feelings and high
vibrations you will need.

Step #2 Focus on their heart, imagine how it must feel to be in their
body and mind. It may take several minutes of focusing on them before
you will feel their heart. Yet let something soft, opening, and
relaxing grow inside you. Let yourself stretch and FEEL what it is
like! Do not give up. Stick with this for as many days as it takes.
Randomly through your day, let your mind return to this joyful image
of them (feeling their expansive heart) whenever and wherever you

Step #3 Imagine a cord of golden light between your heart and theirs.
See it as a channel of energy as their heart is entering yours,
merging with your heart so that your hearts are ONE energy. Let this
exchange of heart energy soften you and relax you.

Step #4 Do this meditation every night before you go to sleep. For
optimum results continue nightly for the 3 months in a row...enjoy!

Sending many blessings to you,

How To Live A Good Life

“I am thankful that thus far today I have not had any unkind thoughts or said any
harsh words or done anything that I regret. However, now I need to get out of
bed and so things may become more difficult.”

-Sylvia Boorstein

If someone wants to ‘be a good person’ and live a moral and virtuous life, they
are generally advised to do two things:

1. Consciously choose their moral code

A moral code is any collection of clear statements about what constitutes ‘right
and wrong’, ‘good or bad’, or (depending on the code) ‘good or evil’. One of the
simplest moral codes that seems to turn up in nearly every religion is the
‘golden rule’ – “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.”

2. Do their best to live by it

This is, of course, where the advice breaks down for many of us. No matter how
clear we are about how we ‘should’ live, actually living that way is considerably

This is why (in order to ‘encourage you’ to live by them)many moral codes come
with built in punishments for violating them, ranging from feelings of guilt and
prayers for repentance to eternal damnation and divine retribution.

Yet how much easier might it be for us to live ‘a good life’ if we changed our
two part formula to this:

1. Consciously choose your state of being
2. Do your best to live *from* it

In his book ‘Happiness is a Choice’, author Barry Neil Kaufman shares the work of
a biblical scholar who radically re-interpreted the ten commandments based on his
own translation of what was written on the famous stone tablets.

In this version, the ‘commandments’ were in fact descriptions of how people would
behave ‘when they took God into their hearts’.

Here are the ten commandments reworded as ‘the ten descriptions’. (If you’re not
a ‘God’ person, substitute the phrase ‘when you put love into your heart’ for the
first part of each description…):

1. When you take God into your heart, you will have no other god before him.

2. When you take God into your heart, you will not create or worship false images.

3. When you take God into your heart, you will not take the name of God in vain.

4. When you take God into your heart, you will honor the Sabbath day and keep it

5. When you take God into your heart, you will honor your father and your mother.

6. When you take God into your heart, you will not kill.

7. When you take God into your heart, you will not commit adultery.

8. When you take God into your heart, you will not steal.

9. When you take God into your heart, you will not bear false witness.

10. When you take God into your heart, you will not covet.

While I have no way of evaluating the historical accuracy of this interpretation,
it passes one important test – it actually works for the vast majority of people
the vast majority of the time. And when you begin by connecting with the highest
and best within you, you are naturally guided to live in the highest and best
ways possible…

Today’s Experiment:

1. Think about times when you’ve felt deeply loving and/or connected to your
spiritual source. In those moments, did you want to kill, steal, lie, or cheat?

Were you more or less inclined to be respectful of your parents (and for that
matter, all people)?

Did you take time out to acknowledge or celebrate the sacred (what mattered most)
in your life?

2. If you knew that by taking the time to put love and/or God into your heart
before acting, your every action would be enhanced, enriched and ennobled, what
would you do to connect with that ground of being more often?

Have fun, learn heaps, and ponder this:

What if living ‘a good life’ is simply the natural consequence of coming from a
‘good’ ground of being?

Until next time,

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"One Step At A Time"

"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."

-- Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Does the prospect of changing and growing seem monumental to you? Just too much to tackle?

Then consider this approach. Take a simple step of affirming your openness to experience more or something new. Or a different first step might be to let go of judgment by embracing the neutral. Begin to see the people, activities and things around you as neither good nor bad.

A journey is made of many small steps. Don’t focus on a far-off destination if you’re not clear how to get there. Build a foundation that is solid for you. We get to new places one step at a time.

"You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."

-- Martin Luther King, Jr.

"One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time."

-- John Wanamaker