Bows and Arrows

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows, are sent forth
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite
And He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

-Kahlil Gibran


"Every communication is either an act of love or a cry for
-from 'A Course in Miracles'

Steve Hardison is a somewhat legendary figure in the coaching world, not only for his incredible effectiveness but also for the jaw dropping fees he charges and his ability to ask pretty much anyone for pretty much anything.

One of my favorite stories about him dates back to his time as a missionary for the Mormon church. One time, Steve had gone up to a house begun speaking with a man who answered the door about the church's teachings. While no doubt he had experienced doors being slammed many times over the years, this man went a step further and actually punched him in the face and Steve's nose began to bleed. Without missing a beat, he asked the man for a towel to help stop the bleeding so they could continue their conversation.

What is it that allows one person to ask and ask and ask for what they want while others stop themselves before even popping the very first question?

One answer is that it's our ability to not take the word "no" personally, no matter how dramatically that "no" may be delivered. And one of the things which can make it considerably easier to do is to know that that response invariably comes from one of three places:

1. Fear that you will "make" them hear something they don't want to hear or do something they don't want to do

2. A lack of information or understanding of how what you're asking will be of benefit to them either directly or indirectly

3. A genuine awareness on their part that they do no want to be, do or have what you are requesting

If their response is coming from fear, you don't have to take it personally because it is about their internal state, not you or your external request. If it's coming from a lack of information, it's still impersonal - it's up to you whether or not to continue until they have enough information to make an informed decision. If they're saying "no" because they really don't want to, it's still nothing to do with you - it's simply a statement from them to them about their willingness to trust their own intuition, awareness and inner knowing.

So why do we take "no" so personally?

Because when we make our requests, we tend to put our self-image and self-esteem and even physical survival on the line along with whatever it is we are requesting. Instead of simply asking for the sale, the job, or their hand in marriage, our self-directed subtext gets rolled into the question and what we are actually asking goes a little something like this:

"Would you please do as I'm requesting *and* approve of me, affirm me as a human being, ensure I have enough money to survive and let me know I'm worthy of your acceptance?"

That's a tall order for anyone, let alone someone you've never met before!

Here's a simple exercise I call "the circle" which will help you to prepare for any request you want to make without making or taking things personally...

Today's Experiment:

1. Imagine you are sitting in the very center of a circle.

2. Now, imagine that all the people who love and care for you take their place in that circle and are looking directly at you in a loving way.

Don't limit yourself to "reality" - your circle can include people from your past, present and future; it can include pets, characters from books and movies, even divine beings. Keep filling the circle until you feel almost overwhelmed with an absolute knowing that no matter what you do or don't do, you are loved exactly the way that you are.

3. When you're ready, imagine someone you want to make a request of standing outside of the circle. Continue to feel the love and care of your circle as you ask them for what you want from them and for them.

Once you've got the experience of being safely inside, there are a number of fun ways of making use of the circle to recondition your thinking about how easy it can be to ask for what you want:

*From within your circle, imagine the person says "no" out of fear that you'll somehow "make" them do something. Can you see their fear? How else could you respond to put them at their ease?

*Now, imagine them saying "no" because they don't have enough information. What could you do to make sure they really know how much what you are asking will do for them, directly or indirectly?

*Imagine they are saying "no" because they simply don't want to. Tune back into the loving faces and energy in your circle until you can hear that "no" and know it cannot harm you in any way, shape or form. Then imagine yourself
asking person after person again and again until some begin to enthusiastically say "yes" to your request!

*What's the worst thing you can imagine someone saying or doing in response to your request? Is it someone punching you in the face? Shouting at you? Pointing at you and laughing and whispering to their friends?

Whatever it is, connect with the energy of your circle and watch them do what they do, knowing that it is nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own unhappiness, confusion and misunderstanding.

4. Take your circle with you into the world. Tune back into it in the moments before you approach anyone about anything until you know that no matter what happens, you are safe, you are valued and you are loved.

And for those of you who want me there, I look forward to seeing you in your circle!

With love,


"The greatest task before civilization at present is to make machines what they ought to be, the slaves, instead of the masters of men."

-Havelock Ellis

On a teleclass with author Gay Hendricks, I heard for the first time the story of how epistemologist Gregory Bateson had come up with the double-bind theory of schizophrenia, considered one of the first true inroads into the understanding and treatment of the illness in the 1950's.

Apparently, Bateson had been having lunch with his friend Norbert Weiner, the father of modern cybernetic science. Over lunch, Bateson attempted to explain to Weiner his problems in developing a working theory (and in so doing effect a possible cure) of the causes of schizophrenia.

After listening for a time, Weiner threw up his hands in frustration and said "I'm an engineer, not a psychologist - let me ask you a question... if I were going to build a machine which produced that result, what would the machine need to do?"

It was in attempting to answer what Hendricks affectionately calls 'the Weiner question' that Bateson developed his theory, and answering the same question can lead to wonderful insights into the many psychological barriers we put up between ourselves and the life of our dreams.

For example, one of my clients was continually overeating, no matter how hard she tried to 'be good' and lose weight. I asked a variation on the Weiner question:

"If I were going to build a machine that produced consistent overeating just the way you do it, what would the machine need to do?"

Well, she worked out that her machine would need to run non-stop advertisements for chocolate and ice-cream and pizza and cake in her brain - an endless reel of mini-movies designed to make those foods appeal to every sense.

Then, at the end of each commercial, it would show a videotape of her mother pointing at her and telling her that she couldn't eat any of the foods or she'd be in big trouble.

Finally, with her tastebuds salivating and her inner rebel aroused, the machine would whisper in her ear a litany of 'positive' affirmations, like "you work hard - you deserve a treat", "one bite won't hurt you", or my personal favorite, "it's not spiritual to focus on outer beauty".

Having designed her overeating machine, she was then able to modify it to produce a different result. Using a bit of creative visualization, she replaced the mental advertisements of food with movies showing her looking and feeling great.

Then, instead of her mother, Tony Robbins would come out, pointing at her and telling her she could do anything she wanted to do and no-one could stop her.

Finally, she wrote out a new, consciously created litany of affirmations, including 'nothing tastes as good as thin feels', 'I feel energized and alive throughout the day', and the oddly effective 'the more I speak my truth, the thinner I get'!

Thirty pounds and sixty days later, she had transformed her eating habits and perhaps more importantly, had begun speaking her truth in a variety of situations where in the past she would have 'shoved it down into her stomach'.

Ready to experiment with the Weiner question for yourself?

1. Think of a barrier to your success in one or more areas of your life. How do you get in your own way? What result do you continually produce in your life that you would like to change?

2. Now ask yourself the Weiner question:

"If I were going to build a machine which that produced that result, what would the machine need to do?"

3. Design your machine. It can be as simple or as elaborate as you make it.

4. Next, modify the design. What would you need to change about how the machine worked in order to produce a different result?

5. Implement the changes in your life!

Here's one last question for you:
If I were going to build a machine that had fun and learned heaps, what would that machine need to do?

With love,


The power to hold on in spite of everything, to endure,
this is the quality of a winner.
Your greatest glory is not in never failing,
but in rising every time you fail.

It's your constant and determined effort
that will eventually break down all resistance
and sweep all the barriers before you.
Persistence means taking pains to overcome every obstacle,
to do all that's necessary to reach your goal.

All great achievements require time.
Endurance is the crowning quality of success.


2006 by Max Steingart
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Growing ourselves

?The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.?

-- Oliver Wendell Holmes

We are all on a life-long journey. It is a search for who we are and why we are here. It is a journey that expands our consciousness.

There is an urge within each of us to move forward in life. It is an urge to become more whole, to find more meaning, and eventually to help others. It is human nature to strive for a sense of well-being.

We all go through the same growth cycles, though our experiences may appear entirely different. By understanding the process of personal and spiritual growth, we can work more effectively with the process, instead of fighting and resisting it.

?We can learn to be the catalysts for our own change.?

-- Sarah Ban Breathnach

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A higher perspective on time

"Be mindful of how you approach time. Watching the clock is not the same as watching the sun rise."

-- Sophia Bedford-Pierce

What would your soul consider a waste of time?

To a soul, the only real time is right NOW. Not the future or the past. It lives in connecting deeply with the rich experience of each moment. Through awareness we can be in touch with our authentic self and how it perceives all of the energies and guidance around and within us.

"Chronos is clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers. Chronos is time at her worst. Chronos keeps track. ...Chronos is the world's time. Kairos is transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, the Sacred. Kairos is intimacy with the Real. Kairos is time at her best. ...Kairos is Spirit's time. We exist in chronos. We long for kairos. That's our duality. Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted. Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We do in chronos. In kairos we're allowed to be ... It takes only a moment to cross over from chronos into kairos, but it does take a moment. All that kairos asks is our willingness to stop running long enough to hear the music of the spheres."

-- Sarah Ban Breathnach

"He who postpones the hour of living rightly is like the rustic who waits for the river to run out before he crosses."

-- Horace

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The more you try, the greater your chance of succeeding.
The law of averages is on your side.

Taking a risk is often your first necessary step toward success.
If you don't take some risks, you won't get the chance to succeed.
While you are trying, you are winning.

Never get discouraged.

Every wrong attempt is another step forward.
People that make no mistakes usually don't make anything.

Make up your mind not merely to overcome a thousand obstacles,
but to win in spite of a thousand defeats.
Your mistakes are stepping stones
to success and your installment payments to victory.

You can't be a winner and be afraid to lose.


2006 by Max Steingart
Reproduce freely but maintain notice


"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice."
-Meister Eckhart

I just got back from 2 wonderful weeks away with my family and was greeted on my return with an e-mail from a magazine requesting that I send them a list of ten unusual things I am grateful for in my life.

In other words, what are you grateful for that you suspect wouldn't be likely to turn up on other people's lists?

Here are some examples received (with gratitude!) from a few of my friends:

...the fact that if Harper Lee was to write only one novel, it was "To Kill a Mockingbird."

...Monet's "Banks of the Seine." with mushrooms and black olives. lick stamps

...scientific names for unpleasant things that make them sound okay

...the passing of the disco music era

... the giddiness of creating

... the unbridled excitement my coming home unleashes with my dogs

...spray adhesive

...the fact that you never will be able to reach the end of the rainbow. But you can always try.

What makes this exercise so enjoyable is that it makes full use of one of the most basic principles of the mind:

*What you focus on, you get more of*

By directing your mind towards things which trigger feelings of gratitude in you, you not only begin to notice more things, you get to feel more good feelings. And what makes the exercise so useful is that those feelings of gratitude so often begin to trigger an inflow of more good things into your life.

Today's Experiment:

1. Make a list of ten unusual things you are grateful for in your life. If you like, jot down a few of the reasons those things make you grateful.

2. Post your list to the MNCT/Radio Show forum at:

3. Enjoy!

I've posted my list of ten on the forums to get things started...

Have fun, learn heaps, and thanks for playing!

With love,


Prepare for your future, don't live in the past.
Savor your good memories,
and use any bad ones as lessons in life.
You need to focus on your future not on your past.

Carve out a niche for yourself in your imagined future.
Think, feel and see yourself as successful.
To achieve any goal in life,
you need to project your end result.

Think of the elation, the satisfaction,
the joy you'll feel when you reach your goal.
Carry these ecstatic feelings with you every day
and they'll bring your desired goals into view.

Sooner or later, you can win, if you think you can.
The cards you are dealt in life
are less important than the way you play them.
Every day you're offered a new deal and new cards.

Success is out there for you.
Don't wait for it to come to you, go out and find it.


2006 by Max Steingart
Reproduce freely but maintain notice

Conscious communication

?If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.?

-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

Conscious communication requires us to be truly present to what is occurring. When we are unconscious, we both speak to and react to others out of habit. And in the face of what we perceive as someone?s judgment and criticism, we automatically (and unconsciously) defend, withdraw or attack.

To communicate consciously requires attention to two areas:

I need to speak from awareness of what I am perceiving, feeling and needing, and

Through watching and listening, I need to be aware of those same needs in others.

?When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.?

-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

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How much of this is mine?

"The collective energy generated from the feelings, thoughts, and attitudes of the almost six billion people on this planet creates an atmosphere or 'consciousness climate.' Surrounding us like the air we breathe, this consciousness climate affects us most strongly on energetic and emotional levels."

-- Doc Childre and Howard Martin

Feeling angry, sad or anxious? You might ask, 'How much of this is mine'?

Those of us who are sensitive sometimes pick up on emotional, mental or physical energy in the environment. It feels like ours ? we really do feel the emotions or physical or mental symptoms. But really, we are processing 'generic' energies that belong to others or to humanity as a whole.

Opening to the possibility that our experiences may not be completely ours helps us detach from them. When we don?t completely identify with our thoughts and feelings, we gain power over them.

"If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear' as it is, infinite.'

-- William Blake

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Self Love


The following guidelines and follow-through are crucial for self-love, confidence
and self esteem.

5 of the 50 Guidelines for Self Love and Follow Through
Exclusive excerpt from:

Dear God, How Can I Finally Love Myself?

5 of the 50 Guidelines for Self Love

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1. I never explain my personal views or spiritual preferences to people who cannot
relate. I share what I choose to share only with people who can be supportive rather
than arguing with me to negate my truth.

2. I admit my true feelings to myself rather than fighting them and trying to make
them go away. They are trying to tell me something I need to acknowledge and know.

3. I create my life's work and purpose based solely on heartfelt inspiration. Passion,
not outcomes, fuels my purpose.

4. I remember that no matter how successful a person may be, the truest form of success
is a loving and pure heart. That is priceless and eternal.

5. I fully trust that when something does not work out the way my personality wanted
it to, ultimately, it worked out for my highest good.

Follow Through for You

The most important aspect of pure self-love is follow-through.

Follow-through means that what you think, feel, say, and do are all congruent. They
are all perfectly aligned to match your real truth.

For example, if you think you do not like your job, then the action that would reflect
your truth would be to leave that job. You would then either create your own business
or move into the general area of work that fills you with excitement.

When you follow through in that way, you will begin to feel your true worth from
the inside out.

The same is true for every aspect of your life, including relationships, what you
do in any given day, and every decision you make each moment of your life.

The key is to follow through in your actions because once you do, you will come to
feel pure and genuine confidence. That confidence is built from the inside out, one
decision at a time.

I can only share with you that once I started to follow through on my own truth,
and stopped allowing others to guide me in a direction that was completely opposite
of how I felt, I finally gained what had eluded me for most of my life: self-love..

As you acknowledge, honor, listen to, and follow through on your truth every second
of your life, you will come to feel all of the goodness you really are, and you will
finally love yourself.

Copyright Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.

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How to Become a Shower of Love


By Jafree & Margot

Your heart is a powerful manifesting vehicle. The more love your heart radiates, the faster you will attract those experiences that make your life worth living. This may surprise you, yet as long as your heart is open and loving, you cannot get hurt in any situation or relationship. Having an open heart that is radiating love to everyone is the most certain way to remain safe, empowered, abundant and truly free. If you have a partner, friend or family member who is throwing negativity on you, as long as your heart is open you'll have compassion for their issue and your experience with them will remain positive. It's only when you close off your heart that your mind starts protecting your ego from pain that causes negative experiences to occur for you.

Here is a powerful technique that will keep your heart open to love:
Imagine that right now, connected to your heart there is a knob sticking out of your chest with the words "Love" written on it. This valve/knob measures how much love you are giving and receiving with the world. It ranges from 1 to 100. Check and see how open your heart is right now to receiving love. Now see how open it is to giving love.

Are they the same? If your heart is less than 100%, you are missing out on the greatest experience of your life! So slowly turn up your valve (with your imagination) and notice what happens inside your body. No matter how distracted your mind becomes, keeping turning it up all the way to 100! For just a few seconds, get a real taste of what its like to have your heart fully open to love!

Now, here's the fun part! For the next 24 hours, check in with your heart valve and notice when it closes. When it does, focus on turning it up to 100 again and again and again! Keep opening it all day long and imagine love (light) is flowing out of it into everyone that you meet and everything that you see. When you see someon you know, or even think about someone, imagine that they are RECEIVING a warm gentle flowing loving sensation inside their heart from your heart.

Become a shower of love for everyone you see physically or even appears in your mind. Practice doing this exercise with people you "don't know", perhaps its the person in the car in front of you, your neighbor, your boss, spouse, co-workers, or the grocery store clerk.
You will be amazed at how you feel after just a few hours of consciously doing this exercise out in the world...Enjoy!!

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love,
and to let it come in.” ~Morrie Schwartz

If you find it challenging to let love into your body, mind or heart you will find it easier with our Guided Self Love Meditation. Merge with your Divine Essence within 30 minutes using this powerful audio experience at:

Sending much Love to you!
Margot & Jafree

Did Anyone Ever Tell You..

The darkest times in life are followed by the brightest

Did anyone ever tell you..

Every seeming obstacle is there to actually HELP you?

You are in this life to soar.

What is required is your decision, backed with your

Anything you are wholeheartedly determined to

Must first be transformed within your mind.

Then, the outer follows suit.

Transformation is using your will in the highest

Bringing out the best you have inside does require

Your full will in ACTION.

You can transform what seems impossible.

Oh Yes you Can!

Copyright 2007 Barbara Rose, Ph.D.

Barbara Rose, Ph.D. and
The Rose Group


"The greatest gift we can give our children is a yes that means yes and a no that means no."
-Bill Cumming

Many times, in our desire to leave options open or in an effort to be polite, we say "maybe" to things we know in our hearts we do not really want to do (or will simply not follow through and do).

The problem with saying "maybe" when we actually mean "no" is that we begin to learn that what we say is not to be trusted - that far from our word being our bond, it's just "noise in the machine".

How would your relationships with others (and your relationship with yourself) change if you suddenly began to not only mean what you say but also to say what you mean - that is, if you not only walked your talk but began to talk your walk?

Today's Experiment:

1. Choose a day this week where you do not have any "earth-shattering meetings" during which changing your habitual communication patterns might be hazardous to your long-term future.

2. When that day arrives, resolve to speak ONLY when you can put yourself 100% behind each and every word you utter.

3. Decide when else it might be appropriate to experiment with the power of your word.

As my friend and mentor Bill Cumming says, "If someone doesn't get that you mean what you say when you say "No", they won't think you mean what you say when you say, "I love you."

Have fun, learn heaps, and talk your walk!

With love,

The problem and its cause

One of the monks of Sceta said to Abbot Mateus:

?My tongue is always causing me problems. When I am amongst the faithful, I just can?t control myself and I end up condemning their wrong actions.?

The old abbot said to the distraught monk:

?If you really don?t think you are capable of controlling yourself, then leave teaching and go back to the desert. But don?t delude yourself: choosing solitude as an escape from a problem is always a proof of weakness.?

?What should I do then??

?Admit that you have some faults in order to avoid any pernicious feelings of superiority. And do your best to get things right when you can.?

The tree and its fruits

A warrior remembers the past. He knows man?s Spiritual Quest, knows that this has accounted for some of the best pages in History.

And also some of its worst chapters; massacres, sacrifices, obscurantism. The Quest has been used for private ends and its ideals have served as a shield for terrible scheming.

The warrior has already heard comments of the type: "how am I to know if this is the right path?" He has seen many people give up the Quest because they did not know how to answer that question.

The warrior, however, has no doubts; he follows an infallible formula. "By its fruits you shall know the tree," said Jesus.

He follows this rule, and it never fails.

The fruits of those who refuse to listen

A prophet arrived at a large city in Persia and crowds gathered around him every morning. But time passed and his presence was no longer a novelty.

?We already know all that you had to teach us,? they said, going to look for a new prophet to show them the way.

Even without anyone to listen to him, the prophet continued to go to the square to deliver his sermon.

?Why do you insist on continuing here?? asked a boy. ?Don?t you see you?re talking to yourself??

?Those who have the courage to say what they feel in their soul are in touch with God. I try to listen to Him when I am talking.

"The fact that now and again I have an audience does not change a thing."

The fruits of those who refuse to receive

During a dinner at the Sceta monastery, the oldest priest rose to serve the others water. He moved from table to table with considerable effort, but none of the priests accepted.

"We are unworthy of the service of this saint," they thought.

When the old man reached Abbot Little John?s table, he was asked to fill his glass to the very brim. The other monks looked on in horror. At the end of dinner, they surrounded Little John:

?How can you deem yourself worthy of accepting that water? Didn?t you notice the sacrifice he was making to serve you??

?How can I stop good from manifesting itself? You who take yourselves for saints did not have the humility to receive, and deprived the poor man of the joy of giving.?

The fruits of the human heart

Sufi tradition tells the story of a king who looked for good painters to decorate his palace. Two teams ? one Greek and one Chinese ? appeared with their best artists, trying to obtain some work that would earn them thousands of gold pieces.

As a test, the king asked each of them to decorate a wall of one of the rooms. To prevent one group from seeing the work of the other, he chose opposite walls and hung a curtain in the middle.

The Chinese painted their wall with the utmost care, whereas the Greeks spent the whole time polishing the surface of the other wall over and over again. Finally the day arrived when the king decided to remove the curtain and compare the results.

On one side he saw the beautiful Chinese painting. On the other wall, which had been polished until it turned into a mirror, the king also saw the beautiful Chinese painting ? but with his own image in the middle.

?This is the better,? said the king. And the Greeks won the contract, because they knew how to deal with the fruits hidden in the human heart.

www.warriorofthelight.comCopyright @ 2007 by Paulo Coelho

Admit the Truth

We've all had bad things happen to us. And, being the complex humans that we are, we often compound our suffering by pushing away, denying the importance of, and rejecting people and experiences that have been important to us. But there is another way and what it requires are open eyes, an open mind, and -- ultimately -- an open heart.

We have to open up to the whole -- the all-encompassing pain and beauty -- and see how we can use that perspective to learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others. We must find the gifts and take responsibility. There's no other option unless we want to be filled with anguish and misery and diminished by our losses.

When we end a relationship, why do we find it so difficult to reach inside of ourselves and contact the love that brought us together with that person in the first place? It's so human to cut ourselves off. Why do we have to destroy something in order to create something else? Although we are a part of nature, we're different than a forest of trees. We don't have to have a blazing fire to generate new growth. Look at how many people cheat on their partner or spouse rather than say what's true, that they're ready to move on. Think about how people will sabotage a job rather than quit or stockpile toxic resentments rather than tell the truth about what they need and want.

Rather than allowing unexpressed emotions to wreak havoc and force everyone around us to deal with the truth through distress and heartache, we can take the high road. And we can travel in the direction of integrity and honesty.

Integrity is being able to admit what's true. When we're being in integrity, we're honoring the whole. We're not just looking through our own upsets, pain, and the ego needs that haven't been met. When we're looking through the eyes of the divine whole, we're able to see the perfection. That's being in integrity rather than justifying, twisting, and making wrong.

When we can see the whole, we don't need to wish our past out of existence. We're able to simultaneously admit to what we've lost and what we have gained. However, when we reject people and invalidate circumstances as a way to move on, we pay a high price.

To deny what has been important to us in the past is to not see it for the spiritual gift that it is. There is a gift. And it's our job to find it. And how we'll know that we've found it is that we'll bless it. We'll honor its existence. And regarding the people involved in helping us to find that gift -- a lover, boss, friend, employee, child, parent, or partner -- we will wish them well.

At a deep level, the emotional freedom that comes with that acknowledgment and honoring is the most
extraordinary bonus gift imaginable.

Transformational Action Step

Really look and see, who or what are you making wrong right now and why are you making them wrong? What are pushing away and denying? Take the time to explore your motivations, see what new choices you can make, and make a list of all that you're grateful for about that person or situation.

With love and blessings,