8 Principles for Living Each Day with More Contentment and Happiness!

Part One of Two

 

Have you ever climbed into bed wondering, "Where did the day go?" Have you ever felt you were on a treadmill--trying to a "somewhere" that never arrives? In our busy world, we often find ourselves living on auto-pilot with one day blurring into the next.

 

Several years ago, I implement "7 Challenge Life Principles" into my daily routine. These Principles take very little time and so simple to implement--you could start using them tomorrow if you like. The Principles have allowed me to realize great contentment, happiness and meaning in every day. The days of auto-pilot living have been replaced by purpose-filled living through the application of the Challenge Life Principles.

 

Challenge Life Principle 1 ~ Good Morning: The first thing I do after opening my eyes each morning is say (aloud or to myself):  Something great is going to happen today--I can't wait to see what it is! When I started this practice, it was a bit awkward--perhaps, because I was at a low-point and didn't fully believe the words. I said it anyway. Everyday. Soon after, great things started happening.  Why? ... because I was looking for them.

 

If we awake thinking about stressful events, the tough day ahead, everything we need to get done, we start the day "on defense." We prime our life for a stressful day--we expect it--and we usually find it. Even when little or large blessing bestow us, we often miss them. After all, we aren't look for blessings--we are looking for stress.

 

Starting my day with this affirmation has proven an effective method for turning my attention to blessings instead of barriers.

 

 

Challenge Life Principle 2 The 3-Step Action List: For those who have taken the Change Your Life Challenge: A 70 Day Life Makeover Program for Women, the 3-Step Action List will be familiar. Each day,  I choose three to complete during the day MAKE TODAY MATTER... even if everything else goes astray. We all know how life can interrupt our well-made to-do lists. Narrowing our focus to three priority action steps helps us focus and prioritize our day.  The items on this list needn't be mountains to overcome or extremely time consuming; ... they simply need to MATTER and move  us forward.

 

I began this practice when I realized how busy my life had become. I was always BUSY! BUSY! BUSY! Boy was I busy. What was even more amazing than how busy I was.....is how LITTLE I was getting done! We often confuse BUSYNESS with ACTION! We can be very busy and not move forward.... (just look at hamster)! 

 

When we carefully choose 3 things that matter each day...we end up with over 1,000 things done each year! Things that matter! How many people can say this confidentially: Last year I completed over 1,000 task that mattered or moved me forward... and I am doing it again this year. 

 

You can have a mile-long to-do list if you like, but mark three things! Stay focused! Life will interrupt and when it does, you will be ready for it!

 

People often ask--what about when you are sick or not feeling well? I still have a 3 step list. Every single day. On those days, examples of 3 things I might choose to make the day matter and move me forward might be:

 

1. Take my vitamins

2. Get extra rest!

3. Feel good for taking care of myself.

 

In August, I will be running a full newsletter on the 3-Step-Action List and how to personality it to me your needs.

 

Challenge Life Principle 3 ~ Each Day, LEARN or TRY something new. This "something" can be little. You don't have learn a second language or anything, but each day learn something new, try something new, or see something you have not yet seen.

 

Examples include learning...

1  a new word...

1  a piece of trivia...

1  see something you haven't seen before on the drive home....

1  try driving a different route,

1  try a different store,

1  try a different recipe,

1  try a different type of book,

1  read a book on a topic that interests you,

1  do something fun--

1  finger paint,

1  color,

1  make a snow angel

1  stop and look at the sunset versus walking (or driving) past it

1  go stand under a tree in your yard and look at it from below

1  make up a constellation, try to find it every night

 

We often get caught up in the same ol, same ol, and forget about how exciting each day can be (if we let it be)! When we learn, try or see something new, we awaken our senses to gather many of life's riches.

 

Challenge Life Principle 4 ~ At least once each day or twice if you are a parent, say YES instead of NO, or  I CAN instead of I CAN'T.

 

NO and I CAN'T have become auto-responses for many of us.

 

Can you come make a snow angel?

No, I can't.

Can you play a game?

No, I can't.

Can you meet me for dinner?

Sorry, I can't, I'm busy.

 

While it is good to say NO to those who cross our boundaries, when we are with those in our inner circle, or with our self, we need to let go of these auto-barriers and say YES and I CAN!

 

I discovered this principle because I actually became tired of hearing myself say "no" to my daughter when she was younger. When she went through her "threes" she would ask if she could do something. I would say "no," on autopilot. She would ask: Why? I didn't have a good answer. Since "NO" didn't seemed to be a good reply, I tried "yes" instead.

By really being present and adding daily spontaneity, my life changed. What a magical world kids (and pets) live in!  I was so happy to finally climb down from autopilot world and see that perspective!

 

Challenge Life Principle 5 ~ Enhance Your Immediate World: Whenever you leave the house---or come into contact with another person ask yourself: What can I do to make a positive difference?

 

My mom raised me with very few rules in our single parent home. However, one rule she engrained  (and boy did she engrain it LOL) was:  Leave everything touch you better than when you came into contact with it.

Now, she didn't mean be a perfectionist, what she meant, was to give within reason, to leave our special touch. Unfortunately, we live in a world where many people  walk around and wonder.. "What's in this for me?" Today's high-expectation world is much different than the world of our great grandparents! When we begin looking for opportunities to give back in the littlest ways, we start a ripple effect.

 

Kindness is contagious--like the "smile syndrome." Have you ever noticed what happens when someone smiles at you? You smile back! This starts a chain. If everyone who read this today smiled at everyone they met (stranger or friends), can you imagine the smiles that would spread in a single day?

 

We can make the days a bit better through very simple actions. When you check out at the grocery store, instead of digging through your purse or checking your missed calls, why not sincerely engage the cashier? Whenever you pay for something, why not place the money in the person's hand and look them in the eye and smile? When a person is grumpy.. Why not treat them even better? Resist the temptation to spread the negativity--it's too contagious to let into your life. Why not open the door for a stranger?

 

Why not take the other person's cart back to the store since you are walking that way anyway? Why not help someone with their extra bag on an escalator? (Thank you to all those who have helped me LOL!) Why not do something kind, knowing that one simple act of kindness, creates waves.

 

Challenge Life Principle 6: Do a Nightly "Make Today Matter" check. When you are done with the day... BEFORE climbing into bed, ask yourself-- What is one more thing I can do to make today matter?

 

I started doing this after I lost my brother suddenly. I realized how magical each day was. Instead of putting something off for tomorrow, I embraced one last thing each day.

 

Some days, I would get online and find a site to email a solider. Just took 3-4 minutes. Sometimes I would just get something ready for the next day. Sometimes I would make a quick call or jot a quick note. I took one last moment to appreciate and live that day before climbing into bed!

Challenge Life Principle 7:  At Night.. Let it All Go!

While you are preparing for bed, think of all the things that happened that were stressful during the day. They have something to teach you-- even if you don't know what it is-- thank them, then LET THEM GO! (Thanking them doesn't mean you like them... and letting go doesn't mean you are happy about them.) Take any upsets and do the same.

 

Then take all the good things and wonderful things, be thankful for them, write them in your gratitude journal, and then let them go, too! It is VERY important to appreciate, remember, but let go. This allows us to focus fresh each day.

 

There is a quote, "Never let yesterday use up too much of today." We don't live in the past.  When we accept and appreciate each day for everything it is or isn't... and then let it go, we clear ourselves to live fully the next day.

 

Challenge Life Principle 8 -  End as You Began:

Once you are in bed, imagine yourself waking, saying your affirmation, identifying your list, moving smoothly throughout the day--feeling confident, feeling beautiful and strong. Imagine yourself handling what needs to be handled, reacting in appropriate ways, handling any stressors with calm assurance.

Imagine yourself achieving your goals, interacting with others. See yourself having dinner, enjoying family. Then let your mind rest!!!!

 

Studies have shown time and time again that those who visualize the day ahead have a MUCH HIGHER success ration of achieving what they see. It is a science they actually study now in athletes. When compared groups who visualize versus practice for two hours do better in competition.

 

All-in-All:

Living the life we want, living in contentment and happiness begins in our mind, and then in our choices. Each day we can choose auto-pilot or we can choose to enrich our lives. We don't remember days, we remember moments. This Living the Challenge formula helps to turn off autopilot and plant seeds for wonder-filled moments.

 

Your Weekly Challenge: Try adding 1 of these simple routines do your day each week. Once you have one down, return to the list and add another.


(c) 2007 Brook Noel. All rights reserved.
www.changeyourlifechallenge.com 


It All Works Out Perfectly in the End


Written by Margot Zaher and Jafree Ozwald 
www.EnlightenedBeings.com

It really doesn't matter when something negative happens to you on any one specific day.  It is all blessed fuel for your spiritual awakening.  Your ego will of course be judging your experience as wrong, terrible or consider it to be the dramatic victim of all creation (if you allow it to do so).  Anything that arises that is not in perfect alignment with what is ?supposed? to happen (according to the ego) the mind throws a mini or major fit.  So when you get triggered by something or someone, you can stop and re-center yourself on the thought that, "everything works out perfectly in the end".  The contracted experience you are having will all of a sudden feel easier to handle and you will more consciously work with the feelings that are arising in that moment. 

?We live the perfect process created by the Universe, and we do that perfectly?whether we realize it or not." ~ Osho

The strangest thing about life is that it really all does work out perfectly in the end.  In the midst of suffering your mind will not trust, believe or agree with this.  Yet, the truth is that from the vantage point of your soul, everything is always divinely orchestrated to perfection no matter what happens.  The whole Universe is conspiring in awakening you to experience the truth of who you are, and sometimes will attempt to give you a growth experience that your ego doesn't like at all!   The only reason we ever experience things are not working out in life is because the mind/ego cannot always see the bigger picture from the perspective of one?s soul.   

The truth is that everything always works out perfectly in the end.  When you hold onto this thought for an extended period of time, it soon becomes a mood, attitude and an approach to life.  By diving into the feeling that everything in the future will work out to divine perfection, you can relax, explore your spiritual essence deeper and actually enjoy your life!  With practice you will discover the hidden blessing that any challenging situation was trying to offer you, and the opportunity for the growth that was buried within it.

"Grace is the thread that weaves my life together seamlessly."  ~Jessica Hall Upchurch

Recently, I (Margot) had a powerful experience of how everything does work out perfectly.  Thanks to Grace, God, the Universe (or whatever you want to call this awesome Divine Presence that blesses us all), a few weeks ago I discovered the very night before taking an early morning flight to Vancouver, Canada for a spiritual retreat that my passport had newly expired.  I called the airlines and they said that they would not let me on the plane without a valid passport because of newly passed laws.  Immediately, I felt my ego start to freak out, and create massive drama.  I knew I had to pull myself together and re-center in my trusting nature.  After several hours of talking with people at the airlines (who only gave me the same negative answer), I decided to surrender and decided that it would all eventually work itself out perfectly in the end.  Once I let go of my negative thought and emotions around the issue, the actual problem instantly dissolved itself.

This is where I feel that Grace stepped in and really supported me.  I reached a ticketing agent that was truly angelic.  She heard about my plight, and told me that she knew how to get me on the plane to !  She had read that the Canadian officials would accept an expired passport with a birth certificate, but that I would have greater trouble getting back into the .  She said that she would document this case in the computer system and it should notify everyone to let me on the plane! The next day I presented myself at the airport and three people told me that I could NOT get on that plane today with an expired passport.  I simply told them to check their computer. They all let me through thanks to the note in their system.  I stepped on the plane to and got through the border without any problem!

It really did work itself out perfectly in the end. The most beautiful thing about this experience is that it powerfully reminded me that the moment I let go and surrendered to trusting a higher divine power is running the show, the Universe was finally able to guide and support me.  We had such a powerful time at this retreat that I was not worried for one second about getting back in the country.  And the amazing thing is that I got back into the with an expired passport and not even ONE person mentioned that it was expired.

"Everything is perfect in the universe, even your desire to improve it." ~ Wayne Dyer

We will all be blessed from time to time with situations that are threatening to the well-being of our ego.  When these circumstances arise, you can easily remember to relax and remember that in the future the deeper understanding of why this situation had to emerge for you will show itself clearly.  Deep down inside your infinite Divine Self knows that every experience in life is perfect because there does not exist a ?wrong? experience. 

Everything is part of the play on the stage of life which your soul has chosen to participate in as an observer, actor and producer.  Your ego may sometimes love the scene, while other times reject it completely.  Just know that everything is temporary, and that suffering only occurs when you are overly attached to how a scene ?should? be happening.  Everything is divine.  You are here to explore it all and enjoy the large diverse variety of experiences that arise. 

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Many blessings to you,
Margot Zaher and Jafree Ozwald
www.EnlightenedBeings.com