Go for depth


"Mastery does not come from dabbling. We have to be prepared to pay the price. We need to have the sustained enthusiasm that motivates us to give our best."

-- Eknath Easwaran

Our world now offers us a smorgasbord of opportunities. In the personal growth field alone, there are myriads of books and products, all promising relief from what ails us. It?s easy to flip quickly from one program to another when something new captures our imagination.

If I long for change in my life, however, I need to do more than skim the surface. I need to make time and take time to both learn new approaches and then -- most importantly -- to apply what I?ve learned. If I jump around to new techniques too rapidly, I won?t benefit from any of them.

"Genius is only the power of making continuous efforts."

-- Elbert Hubbard


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WHEN PANIC ATTACKS!


(Today's tip is excerpted from my new book, Feel Happy Now!, available in the UK now and in the US from January 2008. See the 'Want to Learn More?' section at the end of the tip to learn more...)

When I first learned NLP, I worked in a more directly therapeutic role than I do now. For whatever reason, I wound up seeing a lot of clients who had 'panic attacks'. The structure of a panic attack is an interesting thing. In nearly every case I came across, there was a defining incident - a time where things had been truly painful on the inside. It might have been a time of being out of control or when the person felt as though something was happening to their body and they had no control over it.

The actual panic attack, however, came anytime they felt what they believed to be the onset of another 'out-of-control' experience. In other words, what made the experience so uncomfortable was the attempt to shut it down. It was actually the fear of fear - panicking now about the possibility of panicking in the future.

I remember one particular client who came to me with such bad panic attacks that she arrived at my office lying down on the back seat of her boyfriend's car with a coat over her head. I asked her to come in, gave her a cup of tea and then told her I was taking a poll and needed to know the answer to a very important question: what are the two silliest words in the English language?

After a bit of confusion and some curious thought, she came up with the words 'French fry' and 'parka'. When it came time to take her case history, I asked her to tell me all about her problem with one caveat - instead of the phrase 'panic attack', which I explained was much too scary a term for me, she was to substitute the word 'French fry'.Instead of telling me about the out-of-control feeling, would she mind substituting the word 'parka'?

We then had a fascinating, fun and funny time discussing how many times a week she had 'French fries' and what it was about 'French fries' she found most scary, and eventually I had her tell me about her first 'French fry'.

In addition, she talked about that horrible 'parka' feeling and how whenever she felt herself begin to 'parka' she would immediately begin having a 'French fry'.

Sometimes when I tell this story people think I was being disrespectful, but think about this - for two years this woman had been unable to leave her home without a coat over her head, and within 10 minutes she was laughing about it. She was beginning to access her own good feelings in relation to the problem situation - and those good feelings would be the key to her finding her own solutions.

Here is an exercise you can do to notice the incredible difference introducing good feelings into 'bad' situations can make. Be kind to yourself by doing it with something that's only a little bit uncomfortable until you get the hang of it.

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DISCLAIMER - if you're dealing with something really traumatic, only do this with a qualified (and open-minded!) helping professional.
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Today's Experiment:

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1. Choose something you would like to feel better about in your life. On a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 is awful/terrible/helpless and 10 is wonderful and completely resourceful, how do you feel in relation to it?

2. Talk out loud about it for at least three minutes in a high, squeaky 'Mickey Mouse' voice. Be sure to really go for it - 'slightly squeaky' won't do the trick.

If you feel silly talking in a Mickey Mouse voice, you might hop about on one leg instead. If that still feels too silly for something as serious as your problem, talk in the Mickey Mouse voice while hopping about on one leg!

3. Notice what's different when you think about the situation now. How do you feel about it on a scale from 1 to 10?

With love,
Michael

PS - I used these techniques (and others) recently when working with a woman who suffered from panic attacks in London. The story was featured in The Daily Express in an article entitled "Mr. Happy Changed Our Lives" - you can read the text of the article here:
http://www.express.co.uk/posts/view/6657

If you would like to read the preface and introduction to 'Feel Happy Now' online, click here:
http://www.geniuscatalyst.com/public/feelhappynow.php


Smile!


"Smile, it's free therapy."

-- Doug Horton

I?ve learned that if I put a smile on my face when I?m feeling down, my spirits will automatically lift. The body knows that a smile means happiness.

Knowing this doesn?t mean I?m always willing to do it. Many times, I have absolutely refused to cheer myself up. Isn?t that interesting!

It?s a clue that sometimes the ego positively enjoys being miserable. It can be enlightening to explore the pay-offs we get from our black moods.

"Depend upon it that if a man talks of his misfortunes there is something in them that is not disagreeable to him; for where there is nothing but pure misery there is never any recourse to the mention of it."

-- Samuel Johnson


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Recognizing abundance



"If your everyday life seems poor, don't blame it; blame yourself; admit to yourself that you are not enough of a poet to call forth its riches; because for the creator there is no poverty and no indifferent place."

-- Rainer Maria Rilke

Where do you now experience abundance in your life?

If you are hard-pressed to find abundance in your finances or possessions, look to spiritual qualities. Do you experience abundance in a special relationship? In a quiet moment in a park? In a good laugh with a friend? The more you acknowledge abundance in your spirit, the richer your life will become.

"Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance."

-- John Petit-Senn


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How To Shine Your Light Like The Sun!

You are a divine radiant being who has sooooo much to offer this world! The Universe has blessed you with a plethora of gifts, talents, and love to shine on everyone. The question is, "How to access this light and let it shine onto the world?" To become a beacon of light and love to those around you, simply recognize all of the amazing riches that the Universe has already given you. First start with thinking about what you DO have instead of what you DON'T have. What are you truly grateful for in your life today? Then ask yourself, "Who am I to receive these divine blessings?". You must already be divine if you are receiving such goodies! All it takes for you to step into your power is for you to open yourself up and receive what is already being offered to you.

"Some other things are like shooting stars, they shoot bright for asecond and then pfft. We are like the sun shining, we shine forever."
~ Ziggy Marley

Many people are stuck in waiting for something "wonderful" to happen. They just keep wondering when the Universe is going to bless them with that golden lottery ticket. They spend their lives hoping that something better will come along, and longing for something that will allow them to step into their power and shine like the sun! It's time to wake up here. You have already won the lottery!! The Universe is your lottery and it is yours for the taking. It has already given you everything you need to feel loved, full of joy, enthusiasm, and truly successful. The light inside you is already on and shining for others. Yet, because you're not looking at your own light you may be missing it.

Perhaps you may be taking your life for granted or obsessing about the past or future which blinds you from seeing the beauty of your magnificent presence. Old wounding or traumas can cause clouds to form around the light of your being and tempt you to buy into the propaganda of others' limiting thinking patterns. Who you truly are is even more powerful and glorious than the Sun!! You can manifest anything you desire! The secret to clearing away these clouds of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts INSTANTLY is looking at your simple sweet Divine presence that's here now. Yes, at the core of your being resides an internal flame of light, love, and radiance. Sit with this focus for 5-10 minutes. It's worth your time. This is who you truly are. It is easy to part the clouds of the mind and see the light at the core of your being. This will allow others to see the magnificence inside you as well.

"Lighthouses don't fire cannons to call attention to their shining- they just shine"
 ~ Dwight L. Moody

The interesting thing is that the more you pay attention to your inner light and presence, the easier things manifest for you. The more frequent you let this light shine through, the faster you manifest those amazing things you deeply desire into your physical world. Just like the Sun has a magnetic field that keeps all 9 planets magnetized to it, so too does your inner sun attract beautiful experiences to you. The radiant nature of your core is extremely powerful, beautiful, and unstoppable. When you let it shine on others, they are drawn to you like a moth to a candle flame. Once this shining power is unleashed, the entire world magically starts conspiring to help manifest your dreams into reality.

You may sometimes dim your inner light as a way of playing small so as to not threaten other beings who are near and dear to your heart. It's time to stop playing small, and start playing big. When you let your inner light shine, and fully step into your power, you automatically empower others to do the same. One powerful secret to being a guiding light for others is to write down your greatest desires and dreams. Yes, you may have many dreams that you have kept safely locked away, hiding behind the guards of fear and doubt. You can unlock these dreams and open the door to the magestic wonderland of infinite potentiality! Behind every hidden dream abides the potential energy to harvest and manifest that specific dream. Bringing them out to the surface allows the full radiant power of your being to shine its passion and excitement on them. This also causes your dreams to re-ignite, giving you even more motivation to manifest them.

Your dreams are a type of fuel which bring your inner fire to shine brighter for yourself and everyone else. When you let your BIGGEST, craziest, wildest dreams resurface you give others permission to spark up their dreams too! This causes a mass ignition of everyone's dreams in the world...leading the planet to a higher state of En-light-enment. If one by one, we all let our inner light shine brightly for others to see, we create a wave of light that will soon spread across the world and shine as brilliantly as the sun. Shining your light proudly and brightly for all to see is the surest and fastest way to enlightened the world around you. So let's all take off our lampshades, and let everybody see how truly brilliant and magnificent we are.

"And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."
~ Marianne Willamson


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Days to Simplicity.

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Have you ever felt controlled by life's external circumstances and responsibilities?

Do you ever feel there is so much stuff in your house that you'll never get organized?

Do paperwork, finances, budgeting and bills loom?

Does time seem like a hard to find commodity?

Are your days so filled with commitments that they blend one into another?

If so, you're not alone. Millions of Americans are suffering from today's demanding lifestyles. And more and more people are joining a new trend. The trend of simplifying one's life. Over commitment and overburden lead to stress, frustration and a sense of being "out of control."
The following tips can help you narrow-in on the clutter chaos and create a more calming life.

The closet.
Start by visiting your grocery store and bringing home a few big boxes. These are your garage sale or donation boxes. Start with your closet. Most of us have more than we can possibly wear or clothes that haven't been worn because we don't feel comfortable or confident in them. All of those can go. Donate them, or have a rummage sale and use the proceeds to buy a few pieces you will wear.

Do you need more than one?
How many books do you have right now that you have been meaning to read?
How many books can you read at one time?
If you have stacks of unread books you are only adding clutter to your life. You may also be wasting money if, by the time you are ready to read those books, your interests change and there is a new book you would rather read. Simplifying is all about one thing at a time.

Tackling the stuff. George Carlin once said, "Think of it. That's all your house is. It's a place to keep your stuff. If you didn't have so much stuff, you wouldn't need a house. That's all your house is. A pile of stuff with a cover on it. It's a place to keep your stuff while you go out and get more stuff!"

As you look at all the stuff in your home, remember this formula--stuff equals stress. The more stuff you have the more you have to maintain, clean and repair. The basic key to simplifying your life is to simplify your stuff.

Think of everything you do in terms of priorities. What are your priorities in life? Do you long to have more time with your children? Is there an unfulfilled dream you would like to pursue? Identify your top few priorities and then observe how your actions affect them.
For example, if your top priority is spending time with your children, does buying a new outfit achieve that? If you have a comparable outfit, could that money be better spent?

Cutting down. Simplifying isn't about being frugal. It's about deciding what is important to you and what makes you feel batter about yourself and your life. It's about doing more of the things that make you feel good--by cutting out the things that don't offer as much gratification.

Let's examine the following situation. Let's say you grab a cup of coffee every day on your way to work. It's become a ritual. Do you get excited as you pull up to that drive-through? Probably not. You might glance at your watch and think, I wish they would hurry up. I need my coffee and I still have to get through rush hour. What if you brewed coffee at home, but, to start off your week on Monday mornings, you treated yourself to meeting a friend for a coffee?
Which would give you more gratification? Which would simplify and enhance your life?
Same with dinner. If you bring home fast food on a regular basis, why not make it just a couple of times each month--but make it more special by taking the kids for an extra hour in the playland?

Trap of the free item. I was amazed when I looked around my office at how many things I had collected just because they were free. Newspapers, brochures, catalogs--enough to wallpaper my office twice.

As I looked through the items, a few were valuable, but most just took up space and took extra time to organize and weed through. (Not to mention that it certainly was not environmentally friendly for me to take items that I wouldn't use.) Now, when I see something free, I think twice and don't take it unless it's something I'm positive I'll use.

A CRASH COURSE IN SIMPLIFICATION:
o "Use it or lose it" is the golden rule of simplifying one's life.

o If you can't figure out what a gizmo or gadget does, then all
it's doing is taking up space.

o Take ten minutes every night to un-clutter. Have a race with your
kids to put everything away. If you do this nightly as part of your
bedtime routine you avoid the danger of letting your house get "out
of control."

o Tackle one project at a time. Whether the project is cleaning,
organizing, reading a book or working on a craft project, finish
each project completely before purchasing or starting another.

o Limit junk drawers to one in your entire home.

o Teach "the art of simplicity" to your kids.

o If you don't have a place to put something, don't buy it. Avoid
making space for more clutter.

o Don't keep catalogs. They are not only clutter-building, they are
a temptation to spend money.

o Donate your books to the local library when you are finished with
them. (Ask for a receipt as the donation may be tax-deductible.)

o Don't become obsessed with saving everything for a later use. How
many plastic and paper bags does one person need?

o When you are organizing and come across something you kind of
like, but don't really us, try to think of someone who not only
likes the item, but also will use it. Make that person's day by
giving it to them.

o Every couple of months, tackle the sock drawer. If there isn't a
match now, there probably won't be one later. Toss solo socks or
make sock puppets with your kids for some inexpensive family
entertainment.

o Don't waste time looking for warranties, manuals or important
receipts. Create a special drawer where only these things are kept.
Using a drawer eliminates the chance of the papers never making it
to a file or being misfiled.

Bill systems. Try the following for a quick way to manage your incoming mail and bills. Purchase three magnetic envelope size holders. Place these on the side of your refrigerator. Use the top one for bills you need to pay with your first paycheck each month. Use the second for the bills that come out of your second paycheck.
The third is for all outgoing mail and a roll of stamps. When you pick up your mail each day, sort it right by the bill-holders. Throw out envelopes, special offers and all the clutter that comes with bills these days. When it comes time to pay your bills, remove the top holder and find a quiet place to do your paperwork. Then return that holder below the other one and make it for your next paycheck.

Your Weekly Challenge:
After reading through this week's article, what steps can you take
to simplify?

Here's your challenge:



"Attack every day with a ferocious desire to
end it a better person than you were when
you got up. Create the mindset to live life
more fully than you have in the past. Decide
right now that simply because the herd settles
for mediocrity, appeasement, and existence,
you will challenge your self to do, have, and
become more.

"Set aside 30 minutes each morning for personal
growth time and make this a sacred practice.
Don't make excuses about how early you work,
the kids you have to get ready for school, the
dog you have to walk, the breakfast you have
to prepare, or the person you are a caretaker for.

"These things simply make this selfish personal
development time all the more imperative. Start
each day doing something that nurtures your mind,
body or soul. Or all three.

"Then go forth in each day and seek out challenge,
evolution, and exploration. Make a difference to
those around you, but most importantly, make a
difference for yourself!"

Two stories about mountains

 

Here where I stand

After having won many archery competitions, the town champion sought out the Zen master.

?I am the best of all,? he said. ?I did not learn religion, I did not look for help from the monks, and I have been considered the best archer in the whole region. I heard that some time ago you were the best archer in the area, so I ask you: did you have to become a monk to learn to shoot arrows?

?No,? answered the Zen master.

But the champion was not satisfied: he took out an arrow, placed it in his bow, fired, and hit a cherry at a considerable distance. He smiled, as if to say: ?You could have saved your time and just dedicated yourself to technique.? And he said:

?I doubt if you can do the same.?

Without demonstrating the least concern, the master took his bow and began to walk towards a nearby mountain. On the way there was an abyss that could only be crossed by an old rotting rope bridge that was almost falling down: with the utmost calm, the Zen master went to the middle of the bridge, took his bow, placed an arrow, aimed at a tree on the other side of the gulch, and hit the target.

?Now it?s your turn,? he said gently to the young man as he walked back to safe ground.

In trepidation, looking at the abyss below him, the young man went to the indicated spot and fired an arrow, but it landed very far from the target.

?That?s what one gets from discipline and practicing meditation,? concluded the master when the young man re-appeared at his side. ?You can be very skilled with the instrument you have chosen to earn a living, but it?s all useless if you can?t manage to master the mind that uses the instrument.?


Contemplating the desert

Three people who were passing in a small caravan saw a man contemplating the sunset in the Sahara desert from the top of a mountain.

?It must be a shepherd who has lost a sheep and is trying to find it,? said the first.

?No, I don?t think he is looking for something, especially not at sunset - that confuses your vision. I think he is waiting for a friend.?

?I bet he?s a holy man looking for enlightenment,? commented the third.

They began to discuss what the man was doing, and got so involved in the discussion that they nearly ended up fighting with one another. Finally, to find out who was right, they decided to climb the mountain and ask the man.

?Are you looking for your sheep?? asked the first.

?No, I don?t have a flock.?

?Then you must be waiting for someone,? claimed the second.

?I am a lonely man who lives in the desert,? was the answer.

?Since you live in the desert, and in solitude, then we have to believe that you are a holy man in search of God, and you are meditating!? asserted the third man, content with this conclusion.

?Does everything on Earth need to have an explanation? So let me explain: I am here just looking at the sunset: isn?t that enough to lend a meaning to our lives?

"The Witch of Portobello" will be released in the UK on 4/23/07, in India on 4/18/07 and in the United States in May of 2007. If you wish to read the first chapters of the book, click here.

 
 
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HAVE AN AVERAGE DAY!



"Happiness and a meaningful life come from making differences.
But this is the most important rule to follow: always make the
differences you can make, not the differences you would prefer
to make but can't."

-Lyndon Duke

I was talking to my friend and mentor Steve Chandler once when
he said to me "have an average day!" A bit taken aback, I asked
him what he meant. After all, isn't the idea to have "great"
days, or even "exceptional" ones?

He then told me the story of one of his mentors, a man named
Lyndon Duke who studied something called "the linguistics of
suicide". After receiving a doctorate from two separate
universities, Duke began analyzing suicide notes to look for
linguistic clues which could be used to predict and prevent
suicidal behavior in teenagers.

What he learned was startling - that the enemy of happiness was
what he called "the curse of exceptionality". In a world where
everyone is trying to be exceptional, two things happen. The
first is that nearly everyone fails, because by definition if
too many people become exceptional, the exceptional becomes
commonplace. The second is that those few who do succeed feel
even more isolated and estranged from their peers than before.

Consequently you have a few people feeling envied, misunderstood
and alone and tens of thousands of others feeling like failures
for not being "______ enough" - "good enough", "special
enough", "rich enough" or even "happy enough."

When I was in the midst of the thickest cloud of my own suicidal
thoughts at university, I remember wishing I could run away
from my Presidential Scholarship and hide, perhaps changing my
name to "Bob" and taking a job at pumping gas at a full-service
station somewhere in the midwest. Only in my fantasy, sooner
or later people would start to notice that there was something
special about me. They would begin driving miles out of their
way to have their cars filled up by "Bob the service guy" and
exchange a few words with him, leaving the station oddly
uplifted and with a renewed sense of optimism and purpose.

Before long, someone would discover how exceptional I was and I
would have to run away from their expectations all over again.
I was, to my way of thinking, doomed to succeed.

Delusions of grandeur? Quite possibly. Depressed, hopeless and
miserable? Absolutely!

One of Lyndon Duke's major breakthroughs came when he was
dealing with his own unhappiness and heard the sound of a
neighbor singing while mowing his lawn. He realized then that's
what was missing from his life - the simple pleasures of an
average life.

The very next weekend, he went to visit his son who was
struggling to excel in his first term at university. He sat him
down and told him about his revised expectations for him:

"I expect you to be a straight "C" student, young man," Duke
said. "I want you to complete your unremarkable academic
career, meet an ordinary young woman and if you choose to, get
married and live a completely average life!"

His son, of course, thought Dad had finally flipped, but did
take the pressure off himself to be quite so "exceptional". A
month later he phoned his father to apologize. He had gotten
"A"s on all his exams, but it was OK because he had only done an
"average" amount of studying.

And this is the paradoxical promise of the "average day"
philosophy - the cumulative effect of a series of average days
spent doing an average amount of what one loves and wants to do
is actually quite extraordinary!

Let's put this thought together with another one of Duke's
discoveries - that many of the young people he studied felt as
though their lives had no meaning and made no difference to the
world or anyone in it. As a practical philosopher, he realized
that the meaning of our lives actually *comes* from the
differences we make with them. And that those differences need
not be huge to be profound in their impact on both ourselves
and others.

When we combine those two ideas we have what may well be the
ultimate goal for a happy and productive life:

*To be an average, happy person making a bit of a positive
difference and having a happy, average day.*

In doing this, you create the kind of "exceptionality" that can
be shared by everyone.

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Today's experiment:
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1. Choose an area of your life you have been trying to excel in.

Examples:
Writing, Sales, Being a mom


2. What would constitute an average day in that area? Not
*typical*, but average (as in neither exceptionally good nor
exceptionally bad)?

Examples:

Writing - 90 minutes a day
Sales - Speaking with 5 new prospects
Being a mom - Spending at least half an hour before school and
half an hour after school focused 100% on being with the kids


3. Project forward into the future - if you did nothing but
repeat your "average day" 5 days a week, how much of a
difference will you have made in 3 months? A year? 5 years? A
lifetime?

Examples:

Writing 100 or so hours in a 3 month period would probably be
enough to complete an entire book; 400 hours in a year would be
2 books, some poetry and a screenplay; Over 2000 hours over a 5
year period would make me prolific!

Speaking with 100+ people a month about the difference I can
make for them would definitely lead to some sales; over 1200
difference making conversations a year would lead to numerous
sales (and an incredible amount of skill development); over 6000
difference-making conversations in a 5 year period would make
me rich!

Spending at least an hour a day with my kids seven days a week
is over 125 hours in 3 months; that's more than enough time to
really get to know them and tune in to their wants and needs.
500+ focused hours of time spent with my children over the
course of a year will create an incredible level of friendly
intimacy and positive familiarity; if I make even a tiny
difference in each one of nearly 3000 hours over a 5 year
period, the impact on their lives and sense of meaning in mine
will be anything but average!


4. Do 3 things today that make a small difference - they can be
as simple as a kind word to a friend, a warm smile to a
stranger or picking up your children's socks without secretly
wanting to kill them. :-) Repeat daily for as often as you
like.

Have fun, learn heaps, and have an average day!

With love,
Michael