"There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it."
-Edith Wharton

I am a human being, not a human doing

Don?t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life. You aren?t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don?t . . . you aren?t.


The_Strawberry_Girl_by_Joshua_ReynoldsThe Strawberry Girl by Joshua Reynolds

Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspiration.
I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty,
believe in them and try to follow where they lead...

Lousia May Alcott

Eight ways to tap into the power of intention and feel great every day

  1. Make meditation a regular practice in your life. You need to take time to get quiet, to go within, and from this silence make conscious contact with the source of intention. You're already connected to everything that you perceive as missing from your life; go with a realign.
  2. Become conscious of the foods you eat. Foods high in alkalinity such as fruits, vegetables, nuts, soy, nonyeast breads and virgin olive oil are high-energy foods and will strengthen you, while highly acidic foods such as flour-based cereals, meats, dairy and sugars lower energy and will weaken you.
  3. Retreat from low-energy substance. Alcohol, cigarettes, caffeine, sugar and virtually all artificial drugs, legal or otherwise, lower your body's energy level and weaken you.
  4. Become aware of the energy level of the music you listen to. Some rap music?filled with profanity and messages about killing, for example?is an energy drain, while music that has a more soothing impact on the soul has been proven to be beneficial.
  5. Become aware of the energy levels of your home environment. Make your home a nurturing, cheerful and peaceful environment.
  6. Reduce your exposure to low-energy commercial television. Children see 12,000 simulated murders on TV before their 14th birthday! Television news puts a heavy emphasis on the bad and the ugly, leaving out the good.
  7. Enhance your energy field with photographs. Every photograph contains energy. Carry and display photos taken in moments of happiness, love and receptivity.
  8. Become conscious of the energy levels of your acquaintances, friends and extended family. Choose to be in close proximity to those who are empowering, who see the greatness in you, who feel connected to spirit.

My inner being is serene and peaceful.

Happiness, fulfillment, and purpose in life are all inner concepts. If you don?t have inner peace and serenity, then you have nothing.

Bows and Arrows

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows, are sent forth
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite
And He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

-Kahlil Gibran


"Every communication is either an act of love or a cry for
-from 'A Course in Miracles'

Steve Hardison is a somewhat legendary figure in the coaching world, not only for his incredible effectiveness but also for the jaw dropping fees he charges and his ability to ask pretty much anyone for pretty much anything.

One of my favorite stories about him dates back to his time as a missionary for the Mormon church. One time, Steve had gone up to a house begun speaking with a man who answered the door about the church's teachings. While no doubt he had experienced doors being slammed many times over the years, this man went a step further and actually punched him in the face and Steve's nose began to bleed. Without missing a beat, he asked the man for a towel to help stop the bleeding so they could continue their conversation.

What is it that allows one person to ask and ask and ask for what they want while others stop themselves before even popping the very first question?

One answer is that it's our ability to not take the word "no" personally, no matter how dramatically that "no" may be delivered. And one of the things which can make it considerably easier to do is to know that that response invariably comes from one of three places:

1. Fear that you will "make" them hear something they don't want to hear or do something they don't want to do

2. A lack of information or understanding of how what you're asking will be of benefit to them either directly or indirectly

3. A genuine awareness on their part that they do no want to be, do or have what you are requesting

If their response is coming from fear, you don't have to take it personally because it is about their internal state, not you or your external request. If it's coming from a lack of information, it's still impersonal - it's up to you whether or not to continue until they have enough information to make an informed decision. If they're saying "no" because they really don't want to, it's still nothing to do with you - it's simply a statement from them to them about their willingness to trust their own intuition, awareness and inner knowing.

So why do we take "no" so personally?

Because when we make our requests, we tend to put our self-image and self-esteem and even physical survival on the line along with whatever it is we are requesting. Instead of simply asking for the sale, the job, or their hand in marriage, our self-directed subtext gets rolled into the question and what we are actually asking goes a little something like this:

"Would you please do as I'm requesting *and* approve of me, affirm me as a human being, ensure I have enough money to survive and let me know I'm worthy of your acceptance?"

That's a tall order for anyone, let alone someone you've never met before!

Here's a simple exercise I call "the circle" which will help you to prepare for any request you want to make without making or taking things personally...

Today's Experiment:

1. Imagine you are sitting in the very center of a circle.

2. Now, imagine that all the people who love and care for you take their place in that circle and are looking directly at you in a loving way.

Don't limit yourself to "reality" - your circle can include people from your past, present and future; it can include pets, characters from books and movies, even divine beings. Keep filling the circle until you feel almost overwhelmed with an absolute knowing that no matter what you do or don't do, you are loved exactly the way that you are.

3. When you're ready, imagine someone you want to make a request of standing outside of the circle. Continue to feel the love and care of your circle as you ask them for what you want from them and for them.

Once you've got the experience of being safely inside, there are a number of fun ways of making use of the circle to recondition your thinking about how easy it can be to ask for what you want:

*From within your circle, imagine the person says "no" out of fear that you'll somehow "make" them do something. Can you see their fear? How else could you respond to put them at their ease?

*Now, imagine them saying "no" because they don't have enough information. What could you do to make sure they really know how much what you are asking will do for them, directly or indirectly?

*Imagine they are saying "no" because they simply don't want to. Tune back into the loving faces and energy in your circle until you can hear that "no" and know it cannot harm you in any way, shape or form. Then imagine yourself
asking person after person again and again until some begin to enthusiastically say "yes" to your request!

*What's the worst thing you can imagine someone saying or doing in response to your request? Is it someone punching you in the face? Shouting at you? Pointing at you and laughing and whispering to their friends?

Whatever it is, connect with the energy of your circle and watch them do what they do, knowing that it is nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own unhappiness, confusion and misunderstanding.

4. Take your circle with you into the world. Tune back into it in the moments before you approach anyone about anything until you know that no matter what happens, you are safe, you are valued and you are loved.

And for those of you who want me there, I look forward to seeing you in your circle!

With love,


"The greatest task before civilization at present is to make machines what they ought to be, the slaves, instead of the masters of men."

-Havelock Ellis

On a teleclass with author Gay Hendricks, I heard for the first time the story of how epistemologist Gregory Bateson had come up with the double-bind theory of schizophrenia, considered one of the first true inroads into the understanding and treatment of the illness in the 1950's.

Apparently, Bateson had been having lunch with his friend Norbert Weiner, the father of modern cybernetic science. Over lunch, Bateson attempted to explain to Weiner his problems in developing a working theory (and in so doing effect a possible cure) of the causes of schizophrenia.

After listening for a time, Weiner threw up his hands in frustration and said "I'm an engineer, not a psychologist - let me ask you a question... if I were going to build a machine which produced that result, what would the machine need to do?"

It was in attempting to answer what Hendricks affectionately calls 'the Weiner question' that Bateson developed his theory, and answering the same question can lead to wonderful insights into the many psychological barriers we put up between ourselves and the life of our dreams.

For example, one of my clients was continually overeating, no matter how hard she tried to 'be good' and lose weight. I asked a variation on the Weiner question:

"If I were going to build a machine that produced consistent overeating just the way you do it, what would the machine need to do?"

Well, she worked out that her machine would need to run non-stop advertisements for chocolate and ice-cream and pizza and cake in her brain - an endless reel of mini-movies designed to make those foods appeal to every sense.

Then, at the end of each commercial, it would show a videotape of her mother pointing at her and telling her that she couldn't eat any of the foods or she'd be in big trouble.

Finally, with her tastebuds salivating and her inner rebel aroused, the machine would whisper in her ear a litany of 'positive' affirmations, like "you work hard - you deserve a treat", "one bite won't hurt you", or my personal favorite, "it's not spiritual to focus on outer beauty".

Having designed her overeating machine, she was then able to modify it to produce a different result. Using a bit of creative visualization, she replaced the mental advertisements of food with movies showing her looking and feeling great.

Then, instead of her mother, Tony Robbins would come out, pointing at her and telling her she could do anything she wanted to do and no-one could stop her.

Finally, she wrote out a new, consciously created litany of affirmations, including 'nothing tastes as good as thin feels', 'I feel energized and alive throughout the day', and the oddly effective 'the more I speak my truth, the thinner I get'!

Thirty pounds and sixty days later, she had transformed her eating habits and perhaps more importantly, had begun speaking her truth in a variety of situations where in the past she would have 'shoved it down into her stomach'.

Ready to experiment with the Weiner question for yourself?

1. Think of a barrier to your success in one or more areas of your life. How do you get in your own way? What result do you continually produce in your life that you would like to change?

2. Now ask yourself the Weiner question:

"If I were going to build a machine which that produced that result, what would the machine need to do?"

3. Design your machine. It can be as simple or as elaborate as you make it.

4. Next, modify the design. What would you need to change about how the machine worked in order to produce a different result?

5. Implement the changes in your life!

Here's one last question for you:
If I were going to build a machine that had fun and learned heaps, what would that machine need to do?

With love,


The power to hold on in spite of everything, to endure,
this is the quality of a winner.
Your greatest glory is not in never failing,
but in rising every time you fail.

It's your constant and determined effort
that will eventually break down all resistance
and sweep all the barriers before you.
Persistence means taking pains to overcome every obstacle,
to do all that's necessary to reach your goal.

All great achievements require time.
Endurance is the crowning quality of success.


2006 by Max Steingart
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Growing ourselves

?The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.?

-- Oliver Wendell Holmes

We are all on a life-long journey. It is a search for who we are and why we are here. It is a journey that expands our consciousness.

There is an urge within each of us to move forward in life. It is an urge to become more whole, to find more meaning, and eventually to help others. It is human nature to strive for a sense of well-being.

We all go through the same growth cycles, though our experiences may appear entirely different. By understanding the process of personal and spiritual growth, we can work more effectively with the process, instead of fighting and resisting it.

?We can learn to be the catalysts for our own change.?

-- Sarah Ban Breathnach

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A higher perspective on time

"Be mindful of how you approach time. Watching the clock is not the same as watching the sun rise."

-- Sophia Bedford-Pierce

What would your soul consider a waste of time?

To a soul, the only real time is right NOW. Not the future or the past. It lives in connecting deeply with the rich experience of each moment. Through awareness we can be in touch with our authentic self and how it perceives all of the energies and guidance around and within us.

"Chronos is clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers. Chronos is time at her worst. Chronos keeps track. ...Chronos is the world's time. Kairos is transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, the Sacred. Kairos is intimacy with the Real. Kairos is time at her best. ...Kairos is Spirit's time. We exist in chronos. We long for kairos. That's our duality. Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted. Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We do in chronos. In kairos we're allowed to be ... It takes only a moment to cross over from chronos into kairos, but it does take a moment. All that kairos asks is our willingness to stop running long enough to hear the music of the spheres."

-- Sarah Ban Breathnach

"He who postpones the hour of living rightly is like the rustic who waits for the river to run out before he crosses."

-- Horace

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The more you try, the greater your chance of succeeding.
The law of averages is on your side.

Taking a risk is often your first necessary step toward success.
If you don't take some risks, you won't get the chance to succeed.
While you are trying, you are winning.

Never get discouraged.

Every wrong attempt is another step forward.
People that make no mistakes usually don't make anything.

Make up your mind not merely to overcome a thousand obstacles,
but to win in spite of a thousand defeats.
Your mistakes are stepping stones
to success and your installment payments to victory.

You can't be a winner and be afraid to lose.


2006 by Max Steingart
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"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice."
-Meister Eckhart

I just got back from 2 wonderful weeks away with my family and was greeted on my return with an e-mail from a magazine requesting that I send them a list of ten unusual things I am grateful for in my life.

In other words, what are you grateful for that you suspect wouldn't be likely to turn up on other people's lists?

Here are some examples received (with gratitude!) from a few of my friends:

...the fact that if Harper Lee was to write only one novel, it was "To Kill a Mockingbird."

...Monet's "Banks of the Seine." with mushrooms and black olives. lick stamps

...scientific names for unpleasant things that make them sound okay

...the passing of the disco music era

... the giddiness of creating

... the unbridled excitement my coming home unleashes with my dogs

...spray adhesive

...the fact that you never will be able to reach the end of the rainbow. But you can always try.

What makes this exercise so enjoyable is that it makes full use of one of the most basic principles of the mind:

*What you focus on, you get more of*

By directing your mind towards things which trigger feelings of gratitude in you, you not only begin to notice more things, you get to feel more good feelings. And what makes the exercise so useful is that those feelings of gratitude so often begin to trigger an inflow of more good things into your life.

Today's Experiment:

1. Make a list of ten unusual things you are grateful for in your life. If you like, jot down a few of the reasons those things make you grateful.

2. Post your list to the MNCT/Radio Show forum at:

3. Enjoy!

I've posted my list of ten on the forums to get things started...

Have fun, learn heaps, and thanks for playing!

With love,


Prepare for your future, don't live in the past.
Savor your good memories,
and use any bad ones as lessons in life.
You need to focus on your future not on your past.

Carve out a niche for yourself in your imagined future.
Think, feel and see yourself as successful.
To achieve any goal in life,
you need to project your end result.

Think of the elation, the satisfaction,
the joy you'll feel when you reach your goal.
Carry these ecstatic feelings with you every day
and they'll bring your desired goals into view.

Sooner or later, you can win, if you think you can.
The cards you are dealt in life
are less important than the way you play them.
Every day you're offered a new deal and new cards.

Success is out there for you.
Don't wait for it to come to you, go out and find it.


2006 by Max Steingart
Reproduce freely but maintain notice

Conscious communication

?If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.?

-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

Conscious communication requires us to be truly present to what is occurring. When we are unconscious, we both speak to and react to others out of habit. And in the face of what we perceive as someone?s judgment and criticism, we automatically (and unconsciously) defend, withdraw or attack.

To communicate consciously requires attention to two areas:

I need to speak from awareness of what I am perceiving, feeling and needing, and

Through watching and listening, I need to be aware of those same needs in others.

?When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.?

-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

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Nick: Athena Pearl

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Fdt: 1964